Grounds for Divorce??

vinnyv11 · Mar 3, 2011

So the future wife just told me she is “torn” about going up to Bolton Valley for a couple of days because she doesn’t know if she could ski for multiple days, if she’ll be sober enough to drive and if we should spend the money so close to the wedding.

Question for the group is do I have grounds to call this thing off lol? Let me get this straight I can’t go to Vermont to go skiing (btw I have a sick rate of $59PP per night) for four days but its ok to spend my life savings on a wedding/engagement.

Just venting but I’m sure others have similar conversations with their significant others.

gmcunni · Mar 3, 2011

i fell in love and married a non-skier. i would not make that mistake again.

legalskier · Mar 3, 2011

Get a pre-nup. It's easy, you can do it yourself.

vinnyv11 · Mar 3, 2011

Were both new to skiing this year and she isn't in as good of conditioning as I which is why she doesn't know if she can "handle" skiing multiple days...

ctenidae · Mar 3, 2011

Their signifcant others...

Never gets old, does it?

I'd say a massive desire to blow a lot of cash on a wedding would be the deal killer first.
Never understood the whole big wedding thing.

SkiFanE · Mar 3, 2011

Run. Fast. Now. :razz:

I was lucky to marry a lifelong skier like myself, just happened. I can't imagine marrying a non-skier or intermediate/non-passionate one. If you have kids...do you want them to be skiers? Would you fight over getting a slopeside condo vs. one at the beach? Hmmmm.... luckily my love has never been tested over skiing, lol.

SkiFanE · Mar 3, 2011

vinnyv11 said:
Were both new to skiing this year and she isn't in as good of conditioning as I which is why she doesn't know if she can "handle" skiing multiple days...

Tell her she needs as many days on hill as possible to get conditioned. Give her a good massage to help the aches.

SkiDork · Mar 3, 2011

sober enough to drive? Is she drinking around the clock?

gmcunni · Mar 3, 2011

You/she can just ski half days.

hammer · Mar 3, 2011

ctenidae said:
Never understood the whole big wedding thing.

Neither did I...and I'm so glad that my spouse agreed with me...

Now all I hope is that we can be just as cheap when the kids get married. :roll:

thetrailboss · Mar 3, 2011

vinnyv11 said:
So the future wife just told me she is “torn” about going up to Bolton Valley for a couple of days because she doesn’t know if she could ski for multiple days, if she’ll be sober enough to drive and if we should spend the money so close to the wedding.

Question for the group is do I have grounds to call this thing off lol? Let me get this straight I can’t go to Vermont to go skiing (btw I have a sick rate of $59PP per night) for four days but its ok to spend my life savings on a wedding/engagement.

Just venting but I’m sure others have similar conversations with there significant others.

From someone that just got married let me tell you that weddings ALWAYS cost more than you plan and require sacrifice on both parts. I don't know what your financial situation is, but that may be a valid point on her end. And, for better or worse, get ready for more compromises in the future with regards to skiing vs. other costs. If your spouse is a skier, no worries, but if not, hold on. Money issues are so hard to figure out in your first year or so together.

So if money is indeed tight, maybe offer a compromise: cancel the ski trip and save for a BIGGER and BETTER one in your first year of married life. Or ask your boys to throw you a bachelor party at Bolton on that weekend

Some of us had a bachelor party at Tuckerman's!

vinnyv11 · Mar 3, 2011

SkiDork said:
sober enough to drive? Is she drinking around the clock?

The only weekend that works (because of wedding plans) is to leave Sunday the day after her Bachelorette Party.

vinnyv11 · Mar 3, 2011

hammer said:
Neither did I...and I'm so glad that my spouse agreed with me...

Now all I hope is that we can be just as cheap when the kids get married. :roll:

Don't worry you can always take the route our parents did and not pay for anything (college education, wedding, first home, etc.)

ctenidae · Mar 3, 2011

vinnyv11 said:
Don't worry you can always take the route our parents did and not pay for anything (college education, wedding, first home, etc.)

I think you may be my brother...

My Dad's early plan for a wedding present was a ladder, so we could just elope. He's a funny guy.

drjeff · Mar 3, 2011

Get her up there for the weekend. Tell her that you'll get her drunk enough IN THE HOTEL ROOM Saturday night that she won't want to ski Sunday. You ski Sunday while she recovers, then you do the driving on the way home! Problem solved!

:lol:

John W · Mar 3, 2011

Vinny, I AM IN THE SAME BOAT. Getting Married on the 25th of march and couldn't go out west to Aleyeska with my friends this week for the same isht. BUT I have gotten out 15 times this season so I can't complain too much. THat said I am also trying to convert my love to skiing but it's not an easy thing... Best of luck with the wedding and getting away skiing...

SKIQUATTRO · Mar 3, 2011

i skiied with the now mrs. quattro for 10 years before i popped the ring......had to make sure she was a skiier at heart....these things cant be rushed....

hammer · Mar 3, 2011

ctenidae said:
I think you may be my brother...

My Dad's early plan for a wedding present was a ladder, so we could just elope. He's a funny guy.

In my parents' case, they gave us a fixed amount...and since we were poor college grads we couldn't afford much more on our own.

I just don't get the comments from all of the suppliers, etc. that you "must have this" for your wedding. I'm not trying to diminish the importance of the ceremony but please...:roll:

thetrailboss · Mar 3, 2011

hammer said:
In my parents' case, they gave us a fixed amount...and since we were poor college grads we couldn't afford much more on our own.

I just don't get the comments from all of the suppliers, etc. that you "must have this" for your wedding. I'm not trying to diminish the importance of the ceremony but please...:roll:

And sorry to be the wet blanket in all this :lol: but even though our parents were very generous I would say that with the honeymoon the Mrs. and I easily spent a considerable amount of money on our wedding. Hence my warning

Cannonball · Mar 3, 2011

There is hope....

When I got married my wife had never skied. A year and half later we moved to CO and both worked on mtn at Copper. For our 10 year anniversary she booked us a heli trip in Alaska. Two years ago she started working a side job as a snowboard instructor.

The only down side is we haven't taken a warm weather vacation in almost 20 years because she always insists that vacations are for snowboarding.

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