Views wanted on marriage/monogamy/infidelity

[ckofer]

As far as getting ready to settle down, I think it would be a good idea for nearly any young (20's) person to live on his or her own (no roommates/not in parent's extra house/etc) for a year before committing to lifelong partnership with anyone.

 

[Moe Ghoul]

Mayan calendar ends Dec. 14. 2012, FYI

 

[OldsnowboarderME]

Mayan calendar ends Dec. 14. 2012, FYI

But the world won't ... I hope it will be a good day to go boarding...

 

[Warp Daddy]

You'd be surprised..I've been doing well lately...I'm just not ready to date one girl right now..I like to casually date a few different women so I can compare and contrast...before I go steady...lol

I think I'll probably get married in my late 30s..

GOOD 4 U - Hope she's an awesome woman !!

 

[highpeaksdrifter]

You'd be surprised..I've been doing well lately...I'm just not ready to date one girl right now..I like to casually date a few different women so I can compare and contrast...before I go steady...lol

I think I'll probably get married in my late 30s..

Here's a pic of him with one of his latest dates. This could be considered by some as a step backwards from Matchdot.com. Just sayin.

 

[GrilledSteezeSandwich]

As far as getting ready to settle down, I think it would be a good idea for nearly any young (20's) person to live on his or her own (no roommates/not in parent's extra house/etc) for a year before committing to lifelong partnership with anyone.

Well I've got that down pat so far since I've lived alone the past 4 years...I did meet this really cool girl from match.com recently that I look forward to seeing again soon..I take things really slow..I would have to date someone for at least a year or two before I'd live together. I like spending one or two nights a week with a girl..not every night..I need me time..

I'm actually envious of NYC commuters who have an apartment in the city and a house and wife/kids near where I live(1.5-2 hours from NYC)..During the week they can have whatever they want for dinner after work and can lounge around in their underwear watching TV and on the weekends they can have sex with their wives and spend time with the family..That would be perfect..except they can't go night skiing everyday after work..doh..I guess not that perfect..

 

[GrilledSteezeSandwich]

GOOD 4 U - Hope she's an awesome woman !!

I won't settle for anything less than awesome..actually as long as she likes my humor..lol..you'd be surprised but not all women find me funny...but some find me hilarious..

 

[GrilledSteezeSandwich]

Here's a pic of him with one of his latest dates. This could be considered by some as a step backwards from Matchdot.com. Just sayin.

I wish..if that was the case I would have saved $80 on a dinner at a Japanese restaurant..lol

 

[RISkier]

As far as getting ready to settle down, I think it would be a good idea for nearly any young (20's) person to live on his or her own (no roommates/not in parent's extra house/etc) for a year before committing to lifelong partnership with anyone.

I'm not sure. I lived alone for quite a few years. The longer you live alone the more set you get in "doing things your way" and the difficult it is to adjust to other people's idiosyncracies. As for fidelity, I think it's essential. Without it there's no trust and without trust, what's left of the relationship. FWIW, I haven't read the previous 10 pages of posts.

 

[Paul]

Mayan calendar ends Dec. 14. 2012, FYI

You're a week early.

 

[GrilledSteezeSandwich]

Bump

 

[dmc]

I don't tolerate it...
I hate it when I hear people I know do it...

if you don't want to be with someone.... leave...

 

[Moe Ghoul]

Amazing, not a single cheater on this thread despite the statistics.

 

[deadheadskier]

Amazing, not a single cheater on this thread despite the statistics.

I admitted to it. Early 20's people make mistakes and not that it makes it any less wrong, she cheated first and there were trust issues following that. I would never consider it again with my current partner no matter how crappy things got. I have far too much respect for her, am much more mature than back in the day and would just leave if we couldn't work things out.

 

[deadheadskier]

I hate it when I hear people I know do it...

For sure

My best friend found out three weeks prior to his wedding that his fiance slept with a co-worker. Big huge mess, wedding called off etc. He was living in Florida and the wedding was going to be home in Vermont. He decides to come up anyway and take a vacation for a week and relax with friends. We go visit an old friend down on the Cape who had spent a winter ski bumming with us. Now the guy on the Cape was well aware of what happened. The night we show up we go to his work and he's tending bar. This guy is married with a kid and he proceeds to brag to us that he was sleeping with both women across the bar who were friends with one another and neither of them knew. ARE YOU KIDDING ME! How stupid could you be to not only do such a thing, but to brag about it to a friend who was supposed to be getting married the next day, but wasn't because of an affair. :angry:

 

[GrilledSteezeSandwich]

For sure

My best friend found out three weeks prior to his wedding that his fiance slept with a co-worker. Big huge mess, wedding called off etc. He was living in Florida and the wedding was going to be home in Vermont. He decides to come up anyway and take a vacation for a week and relax with friends. We go visit an old friend down on the Cape who had spent a winter ski bumming with us. Now the guy on the Cape was well aware of what happened. The night we show up we go to his work and he's tending bar. This guy is married with a kid and he proceeds to brag to us that he was sleeping with both women across the bar who were friends with one another and neither of them knew. ARE YOU KIDDING ME! How stupid could you be to not only do such a thing, but to brag about it to a friend who was supposed to be getting married the next day, but wasn't because of an affair. :angry:

Hey he was a Player..you can take a player out of the game but you can't take the game out of a player...For casual dating it's O.K. to date multiple people but if you are in a committed/steady relationship it's wrong...and then there are swingers...pretty sick that a married man whose a swinger will watch another dude bang his wife..

 

[severine]

and then there are swingers...pretty sick that a married man whose a swinger will watch another dude bang his wife..

Did you see that movie Summer of Sam? I think of that every time I think of swingers... somehow I think the men are less thrilled about their women being with other guys as they are just into being able to be with other women.

I admitted to having cheated (clarified because it sounded like I was saying I admit to having been a swinger, which I have NOT been) as well...but I was not in a committed relationship at the time (again, the guy I cheated on was one I had been seeing loosely for like 2 weeks and I was 17 years old at the time... not saying it's right, just it's a lot different than in a committed relationship). I got my karma in that case because the guy I cheated with, cheated on me a few weeks later. Something I never should have done, and I could not inflict that kind of pain on someone else now knowing how it feels to be on the betrayed end of it.

 

[dmc]

Hand then there are swingers...pretty sick that a married man whose a swinger will watch another dude bang his wife..

Like key parties... Where guys throw their car keys into a hat and at the end of the night girls grab a set of keys and go home with that guy...

 

[Moe Ghoul]

Wow. You guys are bad cheaters. First rule of Cheat Club is: Never talk about Cheat Club" , lol.

 

[GrilledSteezeSandwich]

Did you see that movie Summer of Sam? I think of that every time I think of swingers... somehow I think the men are less thrilled about their women being with other guys as they are just into being able to be with other women.

I admitted to having cheated (clarified because it sounded like I was saying I admit to having been a swinger, which I have NOT been) as well...but I was not in a committed relationship at the time (again, the guy I cheated on was one I had been seeing loosely for like 2 weeks and I was 17 years old at the time... not saying it's right, just it's a lot different than in a committed relationship). I got my karma in that case because the guy I cheated with, cheated on me a few weeks later. Something I never should have done, and I could not inflict that kind of pain on someone else now knowing how it feels to be on the betrayed end of it.

A 2 week relationship at age 17 is not cheating..that's called dating..especiallly if you say you were dating loosely...Until a guy asks a girl if she'll be his girlfriend or vice versa..it's not cheating..