Valentines day plans???

[Warp Daddy]

TOO damn much PC crapola in education these days

 

[deadheadskier]

Leaving the wife home and going skiing!

I'm just going to have to make up for it this weekend. Did you know they are calling it "Friendship day" at the schools now. :roll:

I heard that today to. It's along the same lines as 'holiday tree' :roll:

 

[severine]

Everyday is Valentines day

Not true for everyone, I'm afraid. Some of us need these little holidays to get remembered.

Tim bought me an iced-coffee from McDonald's this morning. It was quite nice.

I hear ya!

Leaving the wife home and going skiing!

:blink: Blasphemy!

(What am I saying??? Brian's been at MRG all day while I've been stuck with the kids...again....)

 

[deadheadskier]

(What am I saying??? Brian's been at MRG all day while I've been stuck with the kids...again....)

That right there would be the BEST gift ever. You're a good woman

 

[severine]

That right there would be the BEST gift ever. You're a good woman

Well, at least he had flowers delivered while he was gone. Usually he just buys whatever's leftover at Stop & Shop on his way home from work. I was a little pissed this year though because I had come up with an elaborate surprise (since he was supposed to be working at Sundown at night). My friend would watch the kids and I planned on showing up with dinner and dessert at work. Maybe some chocolate covered strawberries. It was only when I asked what he normally does about dinner while at Sundown that he leaked that he had other plans. (Though it wasn't to go to MRG originally...) Yeah, I was angry that my plans were thwarted. But hey, he's the one who loses out.... though I'm sure he considers MRG a better gift anyway.

 

[MarkC]

I went to hunter mountain to watch the local high school sectional race. After that I had a few beers and am now cooking dinner for myself. I got rid of the girlfriend and became a ski bum and have not looked back since then.

 

[riverc0il]

V Day is lame, we do not do anything. Few years back, we through an "anti-valentine's day" event with some friends (all couples, no less). It was a huge hit. No one likes valentine's day except businesses that profit on the day. Single people feel bad, lots of women build up ideals of perfection, and men spend lots of money trying to buy affection and what not. Some people pull it off with everyone feeling good about it, but those are generally the people that celebrate each other any day, not just a day on a calendar. I dislike most commercial holidays but Valentine's Day is the pits because most people just feel terrible about the whole thing, single or couple.

 

[severine]

You know what the problem is? Men think it's about money. Psssssst! It's not. Women just like to be appreciated, shown that we're thought of and cared about. A nice gesture every once in a while goes REALLY far. Especially if you've been together for a long time as it becomes so much easier to just take for granted what you have.

 

[Greg]

V Day is lame, we do not do anything. Few years back, we through an "anti-valentine's day" event with some friends (all couples, no less). It was a huge hit. No one likes valentine's day except businesses that profit on the day. Single people feel bad, lots of women build up ideals of perfection, and men spend lots of money trying to buy affection and what not. Some people pull it off with everyone feeling good about it, but those are generally the people that celebrate each other any day, not just a day on a calendar. I dislike most commercial holidays but Valentine's Day is the pits because most people just feel terrible about the whole thing, single or couple.

Wow. You've thought pretty heavily about this. We don't do anything really either, but the idea and the commercialism of it really doesn't bother me at all.

 

[riverc0il]

You know what the problem is? Men think it's about money. Psssssst! It's not. Women just like to be appreciated, shown that we're thought of and cared about.

What is different about this day than any other? You know what worries me? When people go out of their way to show they appreciate someone because of a day on the calendar instead of doing it regularly instead of out of a sense of obligation and expectation.

 

[drjeff]

What is different about this day than any other? You know what worries me? When people go out of their way to show they appreciate someone because of a day on the calendar instead of doing it regularly instead of out of a sense of obligation and expectation.

Riv just scored some serious bonus points with this one, especially if she was looking over his shoulder as he was typing!

 

[drjeff]

You know what the problem is? Men think it's about money. Psssssst! It's not. Women just like to be appreciated, shown that we're thought of and cared about. A nice gesture every once in a while goes REALLY far. Especially if you've been together for a long time as it becomes so much easier to just take for granted what you have.

I made sure to complement my wife on the new pairs of pants she was wearing this AM, especially since for the first time in many years, they were a size 4. She's been very happy all day long!

 

[riverc0il]

Wow. You've thought pretty heavily about this. We don't do anything really either, but the idea and the commercialism of it really doesn't bother me at all.

I think really hard about lots of things One of my sayings I live by is you can only understand anything by questioning everything. Which is different than saying my opinion is right but I have questioned meaning, relevance, macro, etc. and have come to my conclusions after such a questioning. It is part of the reason S and I are not married yet, we question the meaning and relevance. People always ask questions about all the stuff that can not be possible without marriage, but yet it all is possible. My 'way' in life has always been to question everything. And actions or inactions that result from the questioning is not to buck trends or be defiant but rather a lack of seeing value or accepting the necessity of social traditions and norms which I consider nothing more than antiquated and often a bunch of baley-woo.

So, yea, I have thought heavily on the topic and others related. But I respect traditionalists and other people's points of view. I just can not resist the opportunity to suggest other options that most people do not consider. Not do something or buy gifts on Valentine's Day when you are in a committed long term relationship? Nearly unheard of these days it seems to me.

 

[SKIQUATTRO]

wife got called in to work a 3-11p, so lets see..gave her flowers last night (3 doz tulips, her fav), just fed the kids, now they are in the tub, get them set for bed, probable watch 20min of Annie, read a few books, once they are asleep, I'll crack a bottle of Cabernet, have some dinner and wait till the Mrs. gets home.....

 

[ckofer]

I just sanded the driveway. She tolerates me more already.

 

[bvibert]

$14 MRG sweetness during the day for me, some wine and flowers for the wife at night... She also made a very nice dinner.

 

[Vortex]

I like Valentines day and enjoy doing the right fun things. Sure its a hallmark holiday. I can live with that. I know my wife likes getting the flowers at work.Glad to see her happy. Sappy, but true.

 

[awf170]

I think really hard about lots of things One of my sayings I live by is you can only understand anything by questioning everything. Which is different than saying my opinion is right but I have questioned meaning, relevance, macro, etc. and have come to my conclusions after such a questioning. It is part of the reason S and I are not married yet, we question the meaning and relevance. People always ask questions about all the stuff that can not be possible without marriage, but yet it all is possible. My 'way' in life has always been to question everything. And actions or inactions that result from the questioning is not to buck trends or be defiant but rather a lack of seeing value or accepting the necessity of social traditions and norms which I consider nothing more than antiquated and often a bunch of baley-woo.

Awesome post. I agree 100%. The weird thing is that I was just having this same exact conversation yesterday and came to all the same conclusions. Must be a UML dork thing...

 

[Greg]

I think really hard about lots of things One of my sayings I live by is you can only understand anything by questioning everything. Which is different than saying my opinion is right but I have questioned meaning, relevance, macro, etc. and have come to my conclusions after such a questioning. It is part of the reason S and I are not married yet, we question the meaning and relevance. People always ask questions about all the stuff that can not be possible without marriage, but yet it all is possible. My 'way' in life has always been to question everything. And actions or inactions that result from the questioning is not to buck trends or be defiant but rather a lack of seeing value or accepting the necessity of social traditions and norms which I consider nothing more than antiquated and often a bunch of baley-woo.

So, yea, I have thought heavily on the topic and others related. But I respect traditionalists and other people's points of view. I just can not resist the opportunity to suggest other options that most people do not consider. Not do something or buy gifts on Valentine's Day when you are in a committed long term relationship? Nearly unheard of these days it seems to me.

That's cool. I definitely don't roll that way. The road of life naturally throws enough little bumps and turns at you to spend too much time over-analyzing everything. Perhaps it also results in being annoyed or dissatisfied by what I would consider rather trivial things. I've really mellowed recently on things like this. It might be since I've had kids. I have enough details in life to worry about that I don't want to spend the limited free time I have pondering the "whys" of insignificant things like this. But everyone's different. Good on ya for being intellectual. I might be simple minded in comparison, but I pretty much prefer to just go with the flow.

As far as the V Day thing, again we don't focus on it either, but it's not because I'm against the concept of it or anything. But like I said, I haven't really thought that much about it... :razz:

 

[Warp Daddy]

Taking a slightly diferant tact here.I respect your ideas and expresiion of same

Interestingly Whoever thought the 60's was dead ought to read your posts . Again respectfully This general phiosophy is IMO just an extension of : DO YOUR OWN THING again. Society has been dealing with the falllout from that for the past 3.5 decades -- some of it very good but alot of it less than great . Lots of heartache resulted


Questioning is fine and should be strongly encouraged But IMO so should Committment . We often find things we dont necessarily like but are able to compromise for the greater good . Its not justtaking one for the team but rather building upon tradition


Continue to Keep questioning, but please make sure not to throw the baby out with the bathwater . Just because we personally dont agree with things don't make them not worth it for the greater good --Just Sayin