A question for the parents

[tree_skier]

For my 14 yo and 12 yo we just beat the stuffing out of them and sometimes take the motorcycles away.

 

[wa-loaf]

For the little kids favorite toys can go in "time outs". Either if the toy is getting left somewhere it shouldn't or as a punishment for some other transgression.

We nighttime potty trained my daughter that way. Everytime she woke up wet we took a doll. Then it became a game to win them back. She was fully trained by the time she had all her dolls back.

 

[billski]

you're going to let your daughter date when she's a teenager? i'm trying hard not to judge, but my daughter (now 8 months old) is forbidden to date until she's at least 25.

I'm in the process of raising three teenage daughters. All I gotta say is that men have a HUGE learning curve when it comes raising girls. Once the hormones kick in the entire world changes. Take your cues from your wife, 'cause you're wrong probably more often than you'd like to think!

 

[bvibert]

I use 1 2 3 Magic it's generally very effective. You don't sit there and count to three, rather each number is a warning. So whatever they are doing that you don't like you say "ONE" and if they keep it up you say "TWO" at three you just send them off to their room for a time out (without any discussion or reasoning). I'd say about 75% of the time I don't get to 3 anymore. It does take a learning curve on both sides.

That's generally what we try to do, but I admit that we aren't very good at sticking to the rules.

"off to their room" for a timeout is not generally helpful - they have interesting things to do there. Put them against a wall, must stay in that place. One minute per year of age. If they leave it, timer starts all over.

We have a timeout chair in their room. They have to sit in it and face the wall, no toys allowed. The timer starts when they're in the chair and quiet.

 

[highpeaksdrifter]

I don't think time outs work that well. I think taking something away they really like (toy, game, tv, computer, etc.) for a period of time works best.

When you take an active child and just make them sit or stay in their room I think is counter productive to discipline. My 2 cents.

 

[highpeaksdrifter]

I'm in the process of raising three teenage daughters. All I gotta say is that men have a HUGE learning curve when it comes raising girls. Once the hormones kick in the entire world changes. Take your cues from your wife, 'cause you're wrong probably more often than you'd like to think!

Tell them BiIl, cause they don't know whats comin.

As far as not having them date until they're adults, all dads of baby girls say it, good luck putting it into pratice.

 

[Warp Daddy]

I'm in the process of raising three teenage daughters. All I gotta say is that men have a HUGE learning curve when it comes raising girls. Once the hormones kick in the entire world changes. Take your cues from your wife, 'cause you're wrong probably more often than you'd like to think!

TRUER WORDs HAVE NEVER BEEN SPOKEN take it from one who KNOWS by experience too ! Just when u think u got women figured out -- you don't

The best way to characterize this syndrome is : Whatever YOU ( male ) think it is ---------IT ISN"T

 

[drjeff]

you're going to let your daughter date when she's a teenager? i'm trying hard not to judge, but my daughter (now 8 months old) is forbidden to date until she's at least 25.

Sure, why not. I'm just going to make sure that what I'm sure will be an implantable GPS locator chip with full listening capabilites and the ability for parents to administer a warning shock if need be is available and implanted in my daughter by that time

I also fully plan to sit my daughter down when she's getting close to dating age and watch American Pie with her (especially the apple pie scene) and let her know that this is absolutely 100% a true representation of what an adloescent male's mind is thinking/capable of

And if all else fails I can atleast take some sense of relief with the fact that in all likelyhood my daughter is going to be about 6 feet tall and should scare off a few

 

[ComeBackMudPuddles]

Sure, why not. I'm just going to make sure that what I'm sure will be an implantable GPS locator chip with full listening capabilites and the ability for parents to administer a warning shock if need be is available and implanted in my daughter by that time

i read this too quickly at first and thought you wrote you were going to implant in your daughter a "GSS locator chip". LOL. i've been spending too much time with the "AZ timeout" thread!

I also fully plan to sit my daughter down when she's getting close to dating age and watch American Pie with her (especially the apple pie scene) and let her know that this is absolutely 100% a true representation of what an adloescent male's mind is thinking/capable of

i think you meant this as a joke, but, actually, this is a pretty good idea. :grin:

And if all else fails I can atleast take some sense of relief with the fact that in all likelyhood my daughter is going to be about 6 feet tall and should scare off a few

this is what i'm counting on, too....i'm 6' 6", so i'm hoping some of my tall genes have been passed on.

 

[drjeff]

i read this too quickly at first and thought you wrote you were going to implant in your daughter a "GSS locator chip". LOL. i've been spending too much time with the "AZ timeout" thread!




i think you meant this as a joke, but, actually, this is a pretty good idea. :grin:

Totally serious on this one actually - definately puts a true, albeit humorous spin on what crazy things an adolescent male will do in a hormone crazed attempt for sex

this is what i'm counting on, too....i'm 6' 6", so i'm hoping some of my tall genes have been passed on.

My grandmother, who was a pediatric neurologist at Mass General, used the following height predictor that worked very well atleast in my family. Take your child's height in inches on their second birthday. Double it, and voila that's how tall to expect the child to be. My daughter was 36" on her 2nd b-day - looking at a 6 footer - now she's just a smidge under 50" at almost 5 and a half

 

[Hawkshot99]

Since you're not allowed to hit kids anymore due to child abuse..

O you can still hit them, just cant cause physical harm.

As a child, my father used his belt on my backside once. Never had to ever do it again, just tell me to stop whatever I was doing or it would happen again. There is nothing wrong with disciplining a child, just dont go over board. My mother used to try to use time-out for me. She gave up quickly when it never worked.

 

[SkiDork]

Ha Ha you can put a dentist chair in your living room or foyer and invite them to sit down and have a "chat" about your expectations before they head out.

Is is safe?

 

[drjeff]

Is is safe?

Just bring it upto modern infection control standards with some gloves and a mask, and there's no problem with that

One of the true classic "dental" movies of all time