Weddings: how much do you leave?

[Nick]

I'm going to a wedding tonight and trying to be reasonable. My wife is telling me that $100 per person is the norm nowadays. I got married in 2006 and back then most people left us $50 per head. $100 per head seems insane to me. Even if they do have open bar all night! 8)

 

[o3jeff]

A lot depends where it's at, open bar, if you like the people, etc I usually do $100 per person, but did more at a wedding that was held on the lawn of the Mystic Seaport for my cousin last year, was probably the nicest wedding I've ever been to.

 

[Riverskier]

How much do you leave for what? A wedding gift?

 

[bvibert]

I leave the lasting impression of my grumpy appearance at their event.

 

[Nick]

How much do you leave for what? A wedding gift?

Yeah, usually they have a birdcage or something for an envelope with $$ in it.

I say it also usually depends but even with open bar, I was thinking $75 a person was on the high side. $100 a person seems like a lot to me.

 

[bvibert]

Is that on top of a gift, or instead of?

 

[Nick]

Instead of , other than the bridal shower

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[marcski]

Instead of , other than the bridal shower

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Did you have fun at the bridal shower, Nick? :lol:

 

[Nick]

that's a wifely duty

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[bvibert]

$100 a head sounds like a lot to me too, but maybe not when you consider what some wedding gifts cost. A lot of people I know gauge how much to give based on how fancy the wedding is, ie; how much it costs per guest.

 

[gmcunni]

way back in 1989 if we got $100 from a couple who attended our wedding we were very happy. i just asked my wife who, without prompting, said "i don't know, $200"

 

[Nick]

Damn. :lol:

 

[o3jeff]

How much did you leave?

 

[HD333]

$200 per couple minimum.

 

[snoseek]

I leave a hundred. The whole concept blows my mind. something about throwing an elaborate party and then taking donations to finance it seems kind of weird. What's even weirder is pre registering gifts for showers ect....I suppose it makes sense sort of but again the whole concept of this tradition baffles me.

 

[o3jeff]

Destination wedding, eliminates having to invite everyone!

 

[Nick]

How much did you leave?

150 but we didn't drink if that helps lol

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[Nick]

I leave a hundred. The whole concept blows my mind. something about throwing an elaborate party and then taking donations to finance it seems kind of weird. What's even weirder is pre registering gifts for showers ect....I suppose it makes sense sort of but again the whole concept of this tradition baffles me.

For just you?

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[Nick]

Another thing I noticed : a lot of people didnt tip the bartender and twas open bar. I thought that was pretty shitty

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[drjeff]

Another thing I noticed : a lot of people didnt tip the bartender and twas open bar. I thought that was pretty shitty

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Yup! Gotta take care of the bartenders, even at an open bar event! Since, especially if you're making a few trips to the bar at the event, you take care of them well, EARLY at the event, and they take care of you!