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Teaching your spouse/friend/child how to ski

mister moose

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The thread on why lessons are so expensive got me thinking about all the bad teaching I’ve seen over the years.

Last weekend at Killington I came upon and watched a mid 30's father on a board teaching his 6 year old pre-novice son how to ski on a black diamond slope. The son had trouble holding a wedge, had a favorite foot, his hips were off center and twisted, and consequently he couldn't turn on the steep slope. He behaved as if he was terrified of building up the slightest bit of speed in an attempted turn, likely because he knew he would immediately lose control on the steep slope. His father kept saying things like "Turn! Turn!" and "Why don't you turn?" The boy would fall down at every attempt, and soon just slumped down in teary tired frustration. He father had no clue what his son was doing wrong, or what he himself was doing wrong. Then the real money line came. "If you don't get up, I'm going to go down the hill without you, and you'll have to come down alone." Great. That’s going to help the kid ski.

At this point I asked if he'd like a little help, and the dad said, "No thanks, I got it."

Oh, no my friend, you don't have anything even remotely close to it, is what I wanted to say, but I just said ok, and skied away.

If you ever had thoughts of teaching your buddy, your girlfriend, your husband, or your child how to ski, please consider all of the following:

Do not, do not, DO NOT take your protégé out on trails that you like to ski so you won’t be bored, and think you can teach them there. The idea is to teach them, so take them on terrain that is entirely appropriate for their ability. If you take them on terrain that is beyond their ability you will take so much time getting down you will be even more bored. Your student will learn nothing and end up hating the experience, and quite possibly hating you for the day.

Do not expect someone to learn if you can’t demonstrate and describe clearly how to do a particular maneuver. “Just turn” or “Just stop” or “Just carve” or “Just lean” doesn’t cut it. Your student has no idea how to “Just” do it. Trying to teach riding a board while on skis, or teach skiing while on a board is the most ludicrous version of this I have ever seen.

Do not take them up a lift, any lift (I said ANY LIFT) until they know how to stop and turn. (Yes, the flat magic carpet type areas are an exception if they know how to at least stop, but you likely won’t have the patience to try that, I mean geez, that’s so boring…) Not going up the lift means you walk up a v-e-r-y gentle slope, and practice stopping, then turning. There should be no fear of speed building since there is practically no slope.

Select the terrain that is best for the student. If you ever have a hint of selecting what is best for you, you aren’t teaching. You are tormenting.

Remember teaching how to fall, and how to get up are very important prior to getting out on steeper, more crowded terrain.

Think about how you are going to teach how to load the lift, and how to unload.

Remember, you are trying to get someone to like the sport. You will hopefully have years skiing together in the future. That means this is a long term investment. That means they need to have fun. This time. Right now. Safely. Don’t lose them forever in a fit of seething frustration. Ski with them at their level. Their level. That would mean selecting a trail where they smile and say how much fun it is. Yelling, crying, arguing and hitting immovable objects all mean you selected the wrong terrain.

If the relationship is important, then treat it as such. Read a few articles or books on teaching your child/friend/spouse to ski. Or put them in a good ski school.
 

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"Remember teaching how to fall, and how to get up are very important prior to getting out on steeper, more crowded terrain"

Very important, I did teach someone how to ski and that is one thing I took into consideration. I told her to fall, she looked at me like I was crazy, but it is very important, not only from you're perspective, but also by showing that a fall isn't all that bad, it brings up their confidence.
 

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Last weekend at Killington I came upon and watched a mid 30's father on a board teaching his 6 year old pre-novice son how to ski on a black diamond slope. The son had trouble holding a wedge, had a favorite foot, his hips were off center and twisted, and consequently he couldn't turn on the steep slope. He behaved as if he was terrified of building up the slightest bit of speed in an attempted turn, likely because he knew he would immediately lose control on the steep slope. His father kept saying things like "Turn! Turn!" and "Why don't you turn?" The boy would fall down at every attempt, and soon just slumped down in teary tired frustration. He father had no clue what his son was doing wrong, or what he himself was doing wrong. Then the real money line came. "If you don't get up, I'm going to go down the hill without you, and you'll have to come down alone." Great. That’s going to help the kid ski.

At this point I asked if he'd like a little help, and the dad said, "No thanks, I got it."

Sadly, this scene is played out thousands of times everyday in various athletic settings.
 

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i confess, i've tortured my kids in a similar manner. i don't think i was taking them on black diamonds though.


took my wife (then girl friend) to the top of mount snow for a lesson. she got a ride down on a snow mobile. "never underestimate the fear factor" was the lesson I LEARNED that day.
 

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The thread on why lessons are so expensive got me thinking about all the bad teaching I’ve seen over the years.

Last weekend at Killington I came upon and watched a mid 30's father on a board teaching his 6 year old pre-novice son how to ski on a black diamond slope. The son had trouble holding a wedge, had a favorite foot, his hips were off center and twisted, and consequently he couldn't turn on the steep slope. He behaved as if he was terrified of building up the slightest bit of speed in an attempted turn, likely because he knew he would immediately lose control on the steep slope. His father kept saying things like "Turn! Turn!" and "Why don't you turn?" The boy would fall down at every attempt, and soon just slumped down in teary tired frustration. He father had no clue what his son was doing wrong, or what he himself was doing wrong. Then the real money line came. "If you don't get up, I'm going to go down the hill without you, and you'll have to come down alone." Great. That’s going to help the kid ski.

At this point I asked if he'd like a little help, and the dad said, "No thanks, I got it."

Oh, no my friend, you don't have anything even remotely close to it, is what I wanted to say, but I just said ok, and skied away.

If you ever had thoughts of teaching your buddy, your girlfriend, your husband, or your child how to ski, please consider all of the following:

Do not, do not, DO NOT take your protégé out on trails that you like to ski so you won’t be bored, and think you can teach them there. The idea is to teach them, so take them on terrain that is entirely appropriate for their ability. If you take them on terrain that is beyond their ability you will take so much time getting down you will be even more bored. Your student will learn nothing and end up hating the experience, and quite possibly hating you for the day.

Do not expect someone to learn if you can’t demonstrate and describe clearly how to do a particular maneuver. “Just turn” or “Just stop” or “Just carve” or “Just lean” doesn’t cut it. Your student has no idea how to “Just” do it. Trying to teach riding a board while on skis, or teach skiing while on a board is the most ludicrous version of this I have ever seen.

Do not take them up a lift, any lift (I said ANY LIFT) until they know how to stop and turn. (Yes, the flat magic carpet type areas are an exception if they know how to at least stop, but you likely won’t have the patience to try that, I mean geez, that’s so boring…) Not going up the lift means you walk up a v-e-r-y gentle slope, and practice stopping, then turning. There should be no fear of speed building since there is practically no slope.

Select the terrain that is best for the student. If you ever have a hint of selecting what is best for you, you aren’t teaching. You are tormenting.

Remember teaching how to fall, and how to get up are very important prior to getting out on steeper, more crowded terrain.

Think about how you are going to teach how to load the lift, and how to unload.

Remember, you are trying to get someone to like the sport. You will hopefully have years skiing together in the future. That means this is a long term investment. That means they need to have fun. This time. Right now. Safely. Don’t lose them forever in a fit of seething frustration. Ski with them at their level. Their level. That would mean selecting a trail where they smile and say how much fun it is. Yelling, crying, arguing and hitting immovable objects all mean you selected the wrong terrain.

If the relationship is important, then treat it as such. Read a few articles or books on teaching your child/friend/spouse to ski. Or put them in a good ski school.

100% truth in all of this!
 

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i take both my kids by myself and cant believe the things I hear out of "adults" mouths. (kinda like i cant believe the things i read on an internet forum written by "adults", myself included) anyway, if all they feel like doing is riding the magic carpet or taking the bunny lift, then fine. I dont go into a ski day with my kids thinking of my own personal skiing at all. Its about them, not me. I have no illusions about being able to teach them much, but they both can stop and wedge well and my older one can turn when she wants to.

I'm so afraid of them careening out of control and hitting a tree, its almost impossible to imagine taking them on a trail over their heads. Everybody has seen this on the slopes though, so obviously some people feel differently. Hell, i took my kid down an intermediate trail at sundown last weekend and nearly had a heart attack even though she was completely in control.
 

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Moose - great post with great points

I think of skiing like driving. Lots of us know how to drive, but that doesn't mean we're qualified to teach someone else to do it. You need proper training in order to be an instructor.
 

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i was a level 1 going for level 2 back in the day (then i got a real job offer)....needless to say, i've let the professiionals teach my kids in a kid friendly setting, they are now both great skiiers (5 and 8) and its a joy to ski with them....do i interject some tips from time to time?? yes, but its keeping it loose and fun..thats the key....
 

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another thing is to teach them to put there skiis back on . . They always try to put the second ski on the down hill side of the hill. . They need to make a 180 and put the second ski on. When they figure that out life is much easier for them.
 

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Quit smoking in the lift lines then...

when i ski with my kids, i only smoke in the car with them on the way to the hill. dont want anyone to think i'm one of "those" parents.
 

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I took my wife (then girl friend) to the top of mount snow for a lesson. she got a ride down on a snow mobile. "never underestimate the fear factor" was the lesson I LEARNED that day.

I did the same with my wife a couple of seasons ago at Cranmore. There was a lot of fright, agony, pain and crying...and we weren't even off the lift yet. :-o
 

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My father once told me about a co-worker of his whose girlfriend decided to teach him to ski. Her idea of "teaching" him was to take him to the top of Nosedive (or one of the Front Four, at any rate) and say "OK, let's go". He did so and promptly broke his leg. Sensibly, he dumped her; perhaps less sensibly, he decided he liked skiing anyway and took it up the following season.
 

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My plan for teaching my daughter how to ski is going to involve also teaching her how to ice skate. This is essentially how I was able to quickly pick up skiing after college without ever having a formal lesson.
The basics of skating are very similar to the basics of skiing. Inside and outside edges, stopping, gaining confidence with falling on a hard slippery surface, getting up from said hard slippery surface, etc. Additionally, a couple hours of public skating is rather affordable and you can do it no matter the outside weather conditions.
The hockey stop on skates is the biggest thing that translated to having confidence on skis. I found that even the first time I put on skis I could control my speed by linking opposing hockey stops. These quickly progressed into carved turns as having this confidence that I could stop whenever I needed to, let me concentrate on other parts of my skiing technique. I initially had a rather wide "power" stance in my skiing form that came over from hockey but I think I have worked my way out of it in most circumstances.
The biggest hurdle I found was keeping ski tips uncrossed (FYI skis are a bit longer than skates). I hoping that as my daughter lears both skiing and skating at the same time, that won't be an issue.

That all said, I'll still probably spring for a couple lessons for her and my wife as well :)
 

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My husband had a terrible experience about a dozen years ago and has always thought he hated skiing. The usual story - brought to the top of the mountain and left to flail while his skiing buddies left him in the dust. Walked into the lodge an hour later in soggy jeans, bruised body and ego. Never again, he said.

He finally joined me at Ragged today to take advantage of the learn to ski for free promo. He had a great lesson with an excellent instructor. Loved every minute of it and is talking about joining me skiing more regularly now.

Whew.... it's about time! He's a good man and I would hate to have had to divorce him.;-)

~claire
 

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so this weekend i see a guy with his kid in one of those strap setups.. where you ski behind the kid 10 feet or so and you have reins, like on a horse, to stop them from going out of control.

Well this guy finds himself at a fork in the road.. left to a terrain park, straight ahead into a mogul field or a slight hike back up to the right to get to a blue cruiser. obvious choice is right, which he did, but when he gather up the reins and slung the kid over his shoulder, like santa carrying a sack of presents, i had to just stop and stare. the kid (facing back away from his dad) was not too happy.
 

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My plan for teaching my daughter how to ski is going to involve also teaching her how to ice skate.

My brother has drafted my wife and I to give intro ski lessons to their (almost entirely non-athletic) boys, 4 and 6. Fortunately, my wife is a former figure skater and coached for 10 years (and her mom is an Olympic coach, and dad is a former National champ, so she has the athleticism that is sorely lacking from my gene pool). She ought to be able to get teh concept of edge across to teh boys.

Of course, her 1st refresher lesson to me after I hadn't been on skis in almost 20 years was "Remember how to get off the lift? Yeah? Okay, see you at the bottom."
 

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some things are best left to the professionals....knowing how to ski, and knowing how to teach are 2 different worlds....
 
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