Need Guys' Opinion to Clear up A Dispute

[severine]

Last night, a girl friend and I went out for a beer after class. While we were talking at the end of the bar by ourselves (at least 6 seats empty to my left...it was Monday night, after all), this guy came over and sat down next to me and started interjecting into our conversation. He pretended to be really busy--playing with his Blackberry, writing stuff down, etc--but he was clearly listening closely based on what he said. At one point, we were talking about our professor who is always bashing her husband and said that she feels men are always to blame--to which he responded that she was right, then wrote on a napkin "Men are always wrong" and signed his name, and gave it to my friend. Then he asked how old we were and responded directly (and only) to my friend (who is younger). Etc....

He was very well dressed so my friend insists he was gay. I said he may be metrosexual, but that he was clearly hitting on her. Heck, she asked me if I wanted a candy and he enthusiastically answered "YES!" She's married and has kids so maybe she's blind to it, but what do you think?

 

[Philpug]

Last night, a girl friend and I went out for a beer after class. While we were talking at the end of the bar by ourselves (at least 6 seats empty to my left...it was Monday night, after all), this guy came over and sat down next to me and started interjecting into our conversation. He pretended to be really busy--playing with his Blackberry, writing stuff down, etc--but he was clearly listening closely based on what he said. At one point, we were talking about our professor who is always bashing her husband and said that she feels men are always to blame--to which he responded that she was right, then wrote on a napkin "Men are always wrong" and signed his name, and gave it to my friend. Then he asked how old we were and responded directly (and only) to my friend (who is younger). Etc....

He was very well dressed so my friend insists he was gay. I said he may be metrosexual, but that he was clearly hitting on her. Heck, she asked me if I wanted a candy and he enthusiastically answered "YES!" She's married and has kids so maybe she's blind to it, but what do you think?

Hehehehe she said "girlfriend"...maybe he was looking for a 3some?

What guy is hanging out in a bar..alone in a Monday night when the World Series and MNF is on?

 

[Marc]

I'm guessing he never actually did something overt, like ask for her number?

 

[severine]

I'm guessing he never actually did something overt, like ask for her number?

He tried to convince her to stay for a 2nd drink. We left pretty abruptly though. No number request but we only sat with him for 10 or 15 min before we left.

 

[severine]

Hehehehe she said "girlfriend"...maybe he was looking for a 3some?

What guy is hanging out in a bar..alone in a Monday night when the World Series and MNF is on?

:lol: Nah, I was virtually ignored. And given the candy nobody else wanted (lemon Starbursts...yuck!). :lol:

I don't expect guys to hit on me so the few rare times it's happened, it was surprising. But I thought the fact that he paid close attention to solely her was pretty telling that he was interested in women, and her in particular.

 

[Marc]

Sounds like a scuzz ball.

 

[severine]

I didn't say he was a great choice. After all, it was Monday night in a bar--and most bars are closed Monday nights here.

 

[ctenidae]

I think he was a closet homosexual with a strong Oedipus Complex, looking for affirmation from a mother-figure that his life choices were okay. His deep-seated feelings of rejection by his father, who was generally more interested in watching sports than his son's interest in ballet and playing the flute, compunds his dissociation with mainstream society, leading to a neurologic imbalance that can only be helped by satisfying his latent OCD (evidenced by his compulsive note taking). The lemon Starburst, perhaps symbolizing the brighter childhood he wishes he had had, triggered further feelings of inadequacy and loneliness, which made it impossible for him to follow up on his need for affirmation by asking your friend for her number. All in all, a classic case of Neo-maxi Zoomdweebism.

Either that, or he was a typical guy who popped in for a drink after work and figured you can't catch a fish if your hook's not in the water.

 

[Marc]

I think he was a closet homosexual with a strong Oedipus Complex, looking for affirmation from a mother-figure that his life choices were okay. His deep-seated feelings of rejection by his father, who was generally more interested in watching sports than his son's interest in ballet and playing the flute, compunds his dissociation with mainstream society, leading to a neurologic imbalance that can only be helped by satisfying his latent OCD (evidenced by his compulsive note taking). The lemon Starburst, perhaps symbolizing the brighter childhood he wishes he had had, triggered further feelings of inadequacy and loneliness, which made it impossible for him to follow up on his need for affirmation by asking your friend for her number. All in all, a classic case of Neo-maxi Zoomdweebism.

Either that, or he was a typical guy who popped in for a drink after work and figured you can't catch a fish if your hook's not in the water.

Dude, what?

 

[snoseek]

Bisexeual?

Sounde like he wanted to sleep with your friend. I will need you to post some pics to confirm the probability.

 

[ctenidae]

Dude, what?

I'm reading legal docs this morning. Tends to twist my mind in odd ways.

 

[drjeff]

He tried to convince her to stay for a 2nd drink. We left pretty abruptly though. No number request but we only sat with him for 10 or 15 min before we left.

Easy to read this one. No 2nd drink = no interest = not worth pursuing any further

 

[Marc]

I've only ever known one male self proclaimed bisexual, and he was not all that interested in women. He was a nice guy though, tought me some basic martial arts. We had some pretty funny discussions where I tried to state my case for women based on how disgusting men are and him providing counterpoint.

The point is, I'd be surprised if he was bisexual, since male bisexuals seem fairly rare from my experience. Although I'm not seeking them out either, so I could be mistaken.

 

[ctenidae]

I've only ever known one male self proclaimed bisexual, and he was not all that interested in women. He was a nice guy though, tought me some basic martial arts. We had some pretty funny discussions where I tried to state my case for women based on how disgusting men are and him providing counterpoint.

The point is, I'd be surprised if he was bisexual, since male bisexuals seem fairly rare from my experience. Although I'm not seeking them out either, so I could be mistaken.

Bisexuality immediately doubles your chances of a date on Saturday night.

 

[Marc]

Bisexuality immediately doubles your chances of a date on Saturday night.

I've tried making a similar case for beastiality. It's not as well received, I've found.

 

[Marc]

I think we may have just inadvertantly derailled Carrie's thread. I honestly wasn't trying this time, I'm sorry. We're both sorry. We're sorry, right ctenidae?

 

[ctenidae]

I've tried making a similar case for beastiality. It's not as well received, I've found.

The increase of your chances there depends largely on the size of your herd. It's a different dynamic. Cheaper dates, though, unless you hang out with a bunch of alpacas. Those guys can drink.

 

[ctenidae]

I think we may have just inadvertantly derailled Carrie's thread. I honestly wasn't trying this time, I'm sorry. We're both sorry. We're sorry, right ctenidae?

I'm sorry for derailing the thread. It was asking for it, though.

 

[severine]

I've tried making a similar case for beastiality. It's not as well received, I've found.

As in adding that in to triple your chances? :lol:

I think he was a closet homosexual with a strong Oedipus Complex, looking for affirmation from a mother-figure that his life choices were okay. His deep-seated feelings of rejection by his father, who was generally more interested in watching sports than his son's interest in ballet and playing the flute, compunds his dissociation with mainstream society, leading to a neurologic imbalance that can only be helped by satisfying his latent OCD (evidenced by his compulsive note taking). The lemon Starburst, perhaps symbolizing the brighter childhood he wishes he had had, triggered further feelings of inadequacy and loneliness, which made it impossible for him to follow up on his need for affirmation by asking your friend for her number. All in all, a classic case of Neo-maxi Zoomdweebism.

Either that, or he was a typical guy who popped in for a drink after work and figured you can't catch a fish if your hook's not in the water.

:lol: Love it!

Bisexeual?

Sounde like he wanted to sleep with your friend. I will need you to post some pics to confirm the probability.

Sounds like a guy response!

Easy to read this one. No 2nd drink = no interest = not worth pursuing any further

Definitely sends a clear message.

Guys are a funny lot. Oh yeah, the bisexual thing....the few I knew who claimed to be were more on the guy than girl team. I wonder if it was more to try for societal acceptance by moderating their stance...

 

[Puck it]

Defintely gay!