Guilt and its Terrible Consequences

[highpeaksdrifter]

We Irish are a guilty lot and before I spin my tale of woe let me give a little background.
A year and a half ago we got a dog and my wife loves it like another child. Last April friends of ours asked us if we liked to go to Florida with them the second week of April. My wife says to me I’d like to go, but I’m nervous about leaving the dog at a kennel. I say why don’t you and Matt (our youngest son) go and I’ll stay home and take care of the dog. You’ll have Phyllis to hang with and Matt will have their boys. She says, “Are you sure you won’t mind” and I say I’m sure. The dog and I head to WF for the week and wife and son head to Florida. All 4 of us had a great guilt free week.

I’m hoping for a repeat of last year, but our friends aren’t going and they offer to watch the dog. She says, “We bought the house at WF for you, you’re there every weekend, Matt is getting older and won’t want to go on vacation with us much longer, but you do what you think is right”. How do I answer that? There’s no way out for me in my mind. So I’m going to Florida, which I hate, to theme parks, which I hate instead of my beloved Whiteface.

What would you have done?

 

[Hawkshot99]

“We bought the house at WF for you, you’re there every weekend, Matt is getting older and won’t want to go on vacation with us much longer, but you do what you think is right”.

What would you have done?

Done what is right and gone to WF!:-D Florida will be there when the snow melts!

 

[highpeaksdrifter]

Done what is right and gone to WF!:-D Florida will be there when the snow melts!

I should have mentioned that my wife and I are both teachers, we have to go when we're all off.

 

[tommy5402]

Sounds like your doing the right thing for your family. We all have to compromise some at times, even with things we may be less than thrilled with.

 

[BeanoNYC]

Go to Animal Kingdom and ride expedition everest a few times. When are you going?

 

[MonkeyBrook]

Be happy your dog is healthy, our little dauschound is 12 and not doing well...we are now saying things like..."we cant leave the dog alone for to long...what if??"

 

[riverc0il]

She says, “We bought the house at WF for you, you’re there every weekend, Matt is getting older and won’t want to go on vacation with us much longer, but you do what you think is right”. How do I answer that?

I would answer that by requesting that the personal aspects be taken out and simply the facts be addressed. Your having a house at Whiteface has nothing to do with the issue and "you do what you think is right" is a cop out for not saying "this is really important to me." Because that sounds like what she really meant, she obviously does not want you to do what you think is right or else you would be heading to Whiteface. Addressing the facts and leaving the emotional hostilities out of the decision making process is always a good idea. The rest of her comments sound appropriate and make a compelling argument. For myself, I had a lot of great experiences vacationing with my folks. Good times I will fondly remember for the rest of my life.

 

[Phlogiston]

Put family first, definitely.

 

[Paul]

I would answer that by requesting that the personal aspects be taken out and simply the facts be addressed. Your having a house at Whiteface has nothing to do with the issue and "you do what you think is right" is a cop out for not saying "this is really important to me." Because that sounds like what she really meant, she obviously does not want you to do what you think is right or else you would be heading to Whiteface. Addressing the facts and leaving the emotional hostilities out of the decision making process is always a good idea. The rest of her comments sound appropriate and make a compelling argument. For myself, I had a lot of great experiences vacationing with my folks. Good times I will fondly remember for the rest of my life.

Put family first, definitely.

Yup.

 

[Greg]

I already think you know what you should do, HPD. How many times have you gotten out this year? You can skip a weekend or two...

 

[gladerider]

family's important and happy dad is very important
but, i'd probably follow my wife's will if i were in your shoes.

 

[dmc]

"Matt is getting older and won’t want to go on vacation with us much longer, but you do what you think is right”.

thats really it right there... It so true...

 

[highpeaksdrifter]

I already think you know what you should do, HPD. How many times have you gotten out this year? You can skip a weekend or two...

I know, it was a no brainer for me really. I have not started a thread in a while, because I can't think of anything, and then I thought of this. I thought it would be split between married guys and singles, but so far it hasn't gone that way at all.

It's funny how threads go. I thought this one would get alot of strong responses both ways, but it has not. Some threads I've started I've wondered if anyone would reply at all and they've taken off. You just never know.

 

[severine]

Here's a wife and mom's perspective....

Sounds like your doing the right thing for your family. We all have to compromise some at times, even with things we may be less than thrilled with.

Put family first, definitely.

I already think you know what you should do, HPD. How many times have you gotten out this year? You can skip a weekend or two...

I agree!

 

[Warp Daddy]

SO 2 questions:

1. do u luv your wife and family ?
.2. do you want them to support your FUTURE skiing addiction ?


DOH : It's ano brainer dude. Suck it up, there are things more important than skiing.

BTW have fun in God's waiting room ( Fla)

 

[BLESS]

We Irish are a guilty lot and before I spin my tale of woe let me give a little background.
A year and a half ago we got a dog and my wife loves it like another child. Last April friends of ours asked us if we liked to go to Florida with them the second week of April. My wife says to me I’d like to go, but I’m nervous about leaving the dog at a kennel. I say why don’t you and Matt (our youngest son) go and I’ll stay home and take care of the dog. You’ll have Phyllis to hang with and Matt will have their boys. She says, “Are you sure you won’t mind” and I say I’m sure. The dog and I head to WF for the week and wife and son head to Florida. All 4 of us had a great guilt free week.

I’m hoping for a repeat of last year, but our friends aren’t going and they offer to watch the dog. She says, “We bought the house at WF for you, you’re there every weekend, Matt is getting older and won’t want to go on vacation with us much longer, but you do what you think is right”. How do I answer that? There’s no way out for me in my mind. So I’m going to Florida, which I hate, to theme parks, which I hate instead of my beloved Whiteface.

What would you have done?

dood, go to Florida. Be with your family. This should be a no-brainer. Whiteface ain't goin nowhere, and your kid will be all grown up before you know it.

 

[kingslug]

It's only for a week, even though it will prolly be a good week for spring skiing and there isn't much of it left, but it will make everyone happy (except you) but thats the breaks sometimes.

 

[highpeaksdrifter]

I know, it was a no brainer for me really. I have not started a thread in a while, because I can't think of anything, and then I thought of this. I thought it would be split between married guys and singles, but so far it hasn't gone that way at all.

It's funny how threads go. I thought this one would get alot of strong responses both ways, but it has not. Some threads I've started I've wondered if anyone would reply at all and they've taken off. You just never know.

dood, go to Florida. Be with your family. This should be a no-brainer. Whiteface ain't goin nowhere, and your kid will be all grown up before you know it.

As you can see by my earlier post I agree completely. BTW, my wife saw this topic and got a laugh out of it.

 

[Greg]

One more comment. Have a good time! Yeah, it's Fla and you certainly won't be skiing, but make the best of it and have fun. Or just drink a lot. Maybe do both!

 

[tcharron]

I’m hoping for a repeat of last year, but our friends aren’t going and they offer to watch the dog. She says, “We bought the house at WF for you, you’re there every weekend, Matt is getting older and won’t want to go on vacation with us much longer, but you do what you think is right”. How do I answer that? There’s no way out for me in my mind. So I’m going to Florida, which I hate, to theme parks, which I hate instead of my beloved Whiteface.

What would you have done?

Suggest next year a vacation someplace BESIDES florida. :-D