Is there a Compromise Here or How do I Get out of This?

[sledhaulingmedic]

No comment...So what's everybodies favorite Thanksgiving side dish..

Grilled Steeze Foreplay= Roofies

 

[Mildcat]

Grilled Steeve Foreplay= Roofies

That's just wrong. :lol:

 

[Mildcat]

Well I will go and with a good attitude too. I think I will take the grand kids for a short hike in the woods before dinner. We enjoy hiking in the woods together. I am always telling to watch out for bears. Just so you know I spend a day out of most every weekend with them and my daughter or they are at my house. So much so sometimes they call me Dad instead of my given name of "Poppie" . .. Cody started calling me that 18 months of age.I think he was trying to say the Spanish word that sounds very similar. I didn't go to Wildcat at the close of last season in May because because it conflicted with Cody's little league schedule so you can be sure I do have my priorities right. Now if there happens to be a dump . Well they will have to understand that Poppie is a snowboarder..

No, don't cave Jerry. I'm sure you are a good grandpa, your grandkids will remember you for that. You spend more days with your grandkids than on the slopes. If you board on thanksgiving day then show up late at your daughters the kids will remember you were there. You started boarding late in life, your daughter should realize you have only so many days left on the slopes but you've given so many days to your family. I say go boarding and then go to your daughters house.

 

[Breeze]

Silly.

Cooking a turkey for a crowd and getting T'day dinner on the table isn't gonna happen much before 2 Pm unless your sainted daughter gets up WAAAY before sunrise. Is she that dedicated?

WE are way, way out from any solid forecasting for snow. For all we know it may be buckets of NCP between now and then

Grandkids rock. Grandparents roll. My grandparents were always a major factor in my life but they died way too soon ( in retrospect).

Thanksgiving ( weekend) is so early in the ski season, its just not a <have to shred dirt> Day . Suck it up, Bucko.

Christmas week is the next big contender, what are you doing for that?

Breeze

 

[ckofer]

Don't tamper with the holiday. I say tough it out. My trick with dealing with persons who annoy me: make a stupid little private game of cataloging/tallying the dumb things they say.

Something like:

Bigoted comments |||
Direct blows to the snowboarding lifestyle |||||
Comments about career ||

you get the idea-it works. Years ago I belonged to an association where the president used the phrase "at this point in time" too often and caught one of the other members keeping a physical tally on a scrap paper. I almost had to leave the room.

Alternately, you could take the high road and place a call ahead to the inlaws and start a conversation that begins with "I know we don't always seem to find much common ground, but this is Thanksgiving and for the sake of the grandchildren,,,,"

I'm not betting on much for open slopes that weekend either.

 

[Terry]

I don't see why you can't do both. Go to the mountain early, get in a few hours, and then go to the thanksgiving gathering. Even if you miss dinner,there will be plenty of leftovers and time to visit as well.

 

[BeanoNYC]

I like what I am hearing here and I really do want to go boarding. I know I have just so many days alloted me for riding left in my life. The grandkids will have their cousins for play time and I forgot it is still hunting season so being in the woods might not be such a good idea. I will try to get to her start dinner around 2 or later.

Seems to me like your mind was already made up prior to starting this thread and your looking for reasons to justify going skiing.

 

[riverc0il]

Man, you don't mess with family and Thanksgiving. One of the few "true to the sprint" holidays we still have. Family and food, that is my idea of a holiday, without all the pomp and presents and expense and media of all the rest. I never ski on Thanksgiving, never. I would be in the dog house for years if I even considered it. Besides, I ski 30-50 days per year but how often do I see my family? Immediate family a few days a year but extended family... this is about it. Not sure what your sliding to family ratio is, but unless it is 1:1, you really should be planning the day around family instead of sliding, IMO.

 

[bill2ski]

Every year, I decry the prospect of gathering with in-laws, in favor of slope time, only to meet the steely glare of my spouse. She's not, however, contemplating my eventual demise. "The look", I have become so accustomed to seeing, is her quiet contemplation of the consequences.
I know, that she, would love to wake up Thanksgiving morning, to the prospect of skiing rather than the responsibility of, preparing a meal for, and entertaining our extended family.
Alas, we have always possessed the only venue acceptable, for a group of this size, to meet and eat in close proximity. My wife, also has issues, in regard to the ability of others to prepare a suitable (edible) offering.
This year,however, something happened to change everything. My sister-in-law and her mother have offered the throw the shindig at the mothers house. To my horror and amazement my wife gave her consent.
Now, after years of hosting this event we have been reduced to the role of spectator.
Gone is my sole dominance of the remote control, Gone is the well established routine of each member of the family garnering their preordained viewing position in the parlor.
Good grief, at dinner, I may have to sit, in other than my patriarchal seat at the "head of the table".
Will I, be called upon to utilize my prowess as a turkey carver extraordinaire ?
All these questions and more, have left me with an uneasy feeling, that I am unaccustomed to.
Though we are committed to attendance at this years festivity.
If all goes as expected, next year we could be waking up slope side and dining on turkey at some well established restaurant in the area.
Life, is all about change. Tradition, is one of it's victims.
I prefer, to think of change, as, the spawning ground of new traditions.
"Let the chips fall where they may".

 

[GrilledSteezeSandwich]

Every year, I decry the prospect of gathering with in-laws, in favor of slope time, only to meet the steely glare of my spouse. She's not, however, contemplating my eventual demise. "The look", I have become so accustomed to seeing, is her quiet contemplation of the consequences.
I know, that she, would love to wake up Thanksgiving morning, to the prospect of skiing rather than the responsibility of, preparing a meal for, and entertaining our extended family.
Alas, we have always possessed the only venue acceptable, for a group of this size, to meet and eat in close proximity. My wife, also has issues, in regard to the ability of others to prepare a suitable (edible) offering.
This year,however, something happened to change everything. My sister-in-law and her mother have offered the throw the shindig at the mothers house. To my horror and amazement my wife gave her consent.
Now, after years of hosting this event we have been reduced to the role of spectator.
Gone is my sole dominance of the remote control, Gone is the well established routine of each member of the family garnering their preordained viewing position in the parlor.
Good grief, at dinner, I may have to sit, in other than my patriarchal seat at the "head of the table".
Will I, be called upon to utilize my prowess as a turkey carver extraordinaire ?
All these questions and more, have left me with an uneasy feeling, that I am unaccustomed to.
Though we are committed to attendance at this years festivity.
If all goes as expected, next year we could be waking up slope side and dining on turkey at some well established restaurant in the area.
Life, is all about change. Tradition, is one of it's victims.
I prefer, to think of change, as, the spawning ground of new traditions.
"Let the chips fall where they may".

Wow..you're a good writer..

In my family, Thanksgiving isn't until late afternoon..maybe like 4:00PM or 5:00PM..The first year I lived in Montana, I skied at Red Lodge on Thanksgiving day and had Salmon for dinner by myself..but the second Thanksgiving I had it with my buddys family. Being alone for Thanksgiving is pretty depressing. Like others said..there are plenty of other days to ski..

 

[bigbog]

Family is over rated.I bet she left you in lurch at least once.Throw it back in her face and remind her that pay back is a bitch.
Thanks not needed
glad i could help
PAt

:lol: :lol: ...Jerry, it's ONE day out of the whole year man....take a look at the big picture. Get in an hour beginning with 1st chair(max!..although I'm beginning to side with riverc0il)...then make a point of having a good time with daughter. To get out of the house for a few...take your daughter for a little walk...or do a little yahdwork for the place. Look, demo days begins on the weekend anyways..

$.01,
Steve

 

[bill2ski]

Wow..you're a good writer..

In my family, Thanksgiving isn't until late afternoon..maybe like 4:00PM or 5:00PM..The first year I lived in Montana, I skied at Red Lodge on Thanksgiving day and had Salmon for dinner by myself..but the second Thanksgiving I had it with my buddys family. Being alone for Thanksgiving is pretty depressing. Like others said..there are plenty of other days to ski..

I agree, in principle, to spending time, with the people in your life that are important and have always been gracious, in spite of my preconceptions and general disposition.
Forging new traditions is not a task for the timid. There will always be detractors and criticism is bound to ensue.As long as the motive is not to exclude any given segment. I see no harm in doing what feels right to you.
In your example, you took off two consecutive thanksgivings with family and found that you missed it. With out those experience's to reflect upon, would the occasion be as cherished ? " Distance makes the heart grow fonder"
Sometimes, you have to be willing to" go the distance".

 

[Warp Daddy]

Yo gramps---- you want to be a hero to your grandkids MAKE MEMORIES with them !!
--hell OSB they're WAY MORE important than a few hrs of slidding on less than primo conditions in NOVEMBER dude.

Just another grampa speakin here :>))

 

[Trekchick]

True story:
My family is all about the home made meal with all the fixin's.
Since being married, I alternate Thanksgiving with his family and my family until last year when all the families got together. THAT was one huge family gathering. As the years have gone by, I've infected many of them with the Ski Bug. This year, for the first time, our family is talking about having Thanksgiving dinner at the Buffet at Crystal Mountain Resort, so we can Ski/Eat/Ski!!!!
Whoooo Hoooooo!

 

[Terry]

I was just checking out my pass and found out that I am only blacked out on sat the 24th. It looks like I will probably either be skiing or hunting on thanksgiving and the day after. I will deff be skiing on sun the 25th. woohoo!!!!!!!!

 

[Hawkshot99]

I hate Thanksgiving! Turkey i am not a fan of for starters. The main reason that I don't like it is seeing the family. There is a reason I only see them once a year. With the exception of one of my uncle's family it is just a very awkward day of sitting around pretending we care what each other has to say. That one uncle that it is not awkward with I see lots during the year, because we enjoy each other's company.

I will be skiing Thanksgiving morning, then meeting my family at my aunts house, for the boredom. The uncle I like is trying to convince his wife to let him join me, but they are hosting, so thats not gonna happen.

 

[ckofer]

No matter how it works out, I hope everybody gets to listen to Alice's Restaurant at noon time.

 

[Mildcat]

No matter how it works out, I hope everybody gets to listen to Alice's Restaurant at noon time.

Thanks for the reminder, if I ski that day I'll have to put that song on my mp3 player.

 

[ComeBackMudPuddles]

Five pages and no one has asked the most obvious question?

Will the food be any good? If not, do what you want. That's the beauty of family. They have to love you no matter what you do!

Your personalized motto:

If the fixin's are good, hang with the brood; if the turkey is like cardboard, pick up that snowboard.

 

[Brettski]

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