Would you let your daughter date a ski bum?

[redalienx11]

Just dating, like during college or shortly after, go for it, have fun. That said, I'm sure most fathers look at whoever their daughter is dating in their 20's and size them up in thoughts of the possibility of a long term commitment.

Thats definitely true with my parents and hers as well. I am not personally one who dates just to date either. My dad told me once. "You shouldn't date someone you KNOW you won't marry, but you don't have to know that you WILL marry them." Or something like that.

 

[Sparky]

My deepest sympathies! :lol:

Where did I go wrong?

 

[deadheadskier]

Thats definitely true with my parents and hers as well. I am not personally one who dates just to date either. My dad told me once. "You shouldn't date someone you KNOW you won't marry, but you don't have to know that you WILL marry them." Or something like that.

I've always felt the same way. I was the king of the one month 'relationship' in my younger years. I didn't really see the point in staying together if I knew it wasn't somebody I'd ever end up marrying. The 'talented' ones maybe I'd keep around for two months.

 

[hammer]

NO...but my daughter's almost 13 so she isn't going out on anything that I would call a "date" for a while...

Once my daughter is emotionally able to handle dating, aside from being a part of illegal or harmful stuff (e.g., drugs, physical abuse), I hope to prevent myself from setting any rules on whom my daughter chooses to date. All I hope is that she makes smart decisions...

Teach your kids how to make good choices. That is the most important thing you can do. You very quickly lose gatekeeper duty.

+1

 

[2knees]

A-holes come from every socio-economic background. I'll "let" my daughters date the type of person who treats them with respect, dignity and class. I used the " " because we all know kids have a way of doing things you disapprove of anyway.

 

[billski]

NO...but my daughter's almost 13 so she isn't going out on anything that I would call a "date" for a while...

+1

Yeah, but she's already at that dangerous age of influence, forgetabout dating. Making good choices starts NOW! Good luck. Somehow we all survived adolescence ourselves, I still don't know how. With a good Dad, she's off to a good start.