I'm going crazy!!!!!!!!!

[Greg]

I here ya and feel your pain. Guys often joke about "They have a get out of jail card" for the weekend cause the wife is doing something so they get to do what they want. It's BS, marriage isn't suppose to be jail.

I put in so many deposits into the wife account that I rarely get much more static than an eye roll or two when I make a withdrawal and say I'm going skiing. It does begin to wear on her by late March/April though. When I'm home I'm watching the kids, doing laundry, cleaning the house, cooking meals, etc. The ultimate man bitch. :lol: She appreciates all that and doesn't stand in the way of my skiing. I don't take advantage of it though.

 

[KingM]

I've got a great wife. She only starts to roll her eyes when I start talking about backpacking through North Africa and the Sahara for a couple of weeks, but even then, she's pretty understanding.

 

[bvibert]

I've got a great wife. She only starts to roll her eyes when I start talking about backpacking through North Africa and the Sahara for a couple of weeks, but even then, she's pretty understanding.

I heard the skiing sucks there...

 

[hammer]

I put in so many deposits into the wife account that I rarely get much more static than an eye roll or two when I make a withdrawal and say I'm going skiing. It does begin to wear on her by late March/April though. When I'm home I'm watching the kids, doing laundry, cleaning the house, cooking meals, etc. The ultimate man bitch. :lol: She appreciates all that and doesn't stand in the way of my skiing. I don't take advantage of it though.

My wife works, so sharing chores is just expected. No wife account deposits there.

My deposits are made when I join her in something that she enjoys and I don't care as much for. I'd rather do more chores...

I will add one thing, however...a few weeks ago she came with me to Wachusett and just sat in the lodge while I went out skiing. Wasn't much fun for her but I appreciated the company.

 

[ERJ-145CA]

So married people don't have Me time???

My wife doesn't begrudge me skiing so I get to go most of the time when I want to. Of course she snowboards but not nearly as often as I ski. Skiing's my only activity so the rest of the year I don't do anything anyway.

 

[Warp Daddy]

The Queen skis ,altho not often. She is a BLUBIRD day skier BUT UNDERSTANDS my compulsion

She plays tennis weekly all year round with HER group and I ski and Golf "wid ma boyz"


Often she'll ride with me to the hill if i go alone and its pretty cold she'll bring stuff to do she knits sweaters and stuff and bring a book and will enjoy the fireplace in the lodge


I am blessed i get ABSOLUTELY NO heat at all --Our skiing friends are all couples we've known for yrs and teh women are all skiers but prefer skiing under great conditions

 

[bigbog]

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lol, i was just getting it out of my system.
some people argue about money or housework or even sex.
.............
Clark Kent may be coming back for the season.

Hey 2knees, tell Clark Kent to bring some more snow, eh'!...
*Seems as though I saw a post by JimG on FirstTracksOnline...a few months? ago...

 

[mlctvt]

I'm going crazy too. My wife can't get out of work early today but my company just decided to close at noon. She also wants to stay home this weekend since we have 12-15 people coming for dinner Christmas Eve. So I'm heading to Mount Snow alone in about an hour. I'll either come home Sunday as usual , unless I get snowed in on Sunday :smile:

When I get home Sunday or Monday I'll have to work my butt off to get the house decorated and food/drink ready. Thank god I have an understanding wife.

 

[Glenn]

Thankfully, my wife skis...and loves it as much as I do. The only time she gets pissed about skiing is when I suggest going skiing on a day I have off...but she has to work.

 

[KingM]

I heard the skiing sucks there...

Actually, they do have skiing in North Africa. I believe that both Algeria and Morocco have small, poorly run and dangerous ski resorts. The Atlas Mountains have peaks over 13,000 feet that get a fair amount of snow.

 

[eastcoastpowderhound]

a few weeks ago I bought tix to the nutcracker in boston for the Mrs and our daughter = guilt free ski day...and its my mother's birthday so I offered to take her up to the mtn...so not only do I get to ski but I also earn all around good father/husband/son points in the process. Even had the green light to head north tonight if the snow was hitting the mtns. Either way, fresh or no fresh at SR, I'll be there tomorrow.
The Mrs is the first woman I'd ever dated who gets my ski addiction and doesn't try to compete with it. It also puts the bread on the table and the roof over our head...don't bite the hand that feeds.

 

[deadheadskier]

So married people don't have Me time???

Not married, but soon to be. No I can't go sking whenever I want like I used to, but most of the time I'm reasonably content skiing one day each weekend and spending the other with her. There is a six inch powder clause in there though :lol:

I will be skiing more this winter than winters prior though and explained that there will be at least four weekends where I will be taking off for two day trips. There really isn't a convenient night skiing option for me (1:15 one way) and it's near impossible to take mid week days off from my job. 18 & 20 days weren't enough the past two seasons, I need at least 25, preferably 30. She affectionately refers to herself as a ski widow in the winter. I would not want to ski every day I have off and skip out on time spent with her for six months out of the year though. Balance

Perhaps she will take to the sport when we have kids as I have every intention in raising skiers if they like the sport and would love her to join us. I imagine at that point in life, I'll probably ski a bit less though as kids aren't cheap, they're priceless, but not cheap. I certainly won't short change my kid's needs financially for my own hobbies. That will be a different balance I'll have to find when the time comes. Hopefully not for at least two more seasons after this one. I'm enjoying life as just the two of us.

 

[freezorburn]

I came into work this moring Thinking this is stupid I should be heading to VT! (Breaks my heart to have to be at work today.)

 

[skiing is life]

im going crazy because the doppler rader says its snowing but i havent seen a single flake fall outside the window:-o:uzi::flame:

 

[SkiManSB]

The goal is to be on the hill 15 minutes before anyone realizes your gone!

 

[billski]

yeah i'm sure.

i'm an inch away from filing for divorce. I cant keep this up anymore.

spring summer fall winter. every activity is met with hostile resistance.

i quit golf, i barely play softball i ski almost never and still. nothing but arguments. people werent meant to live like this.

I can't solve your problems, but I can tell you how I handled it. First, I was already skiing before I got married, so it's part of the package. Second, I hate to say this, (Dr. Phil would castrate me) but sometimes you need to make it non-debatable. Look, I'm going, period. Details omitted, but that's the essence of it. One of my ski buds and I talked at length about it. It happens to a lot of guys, especially after kids are born and the whole bunch is no longer interested. My bud said it best, "it's part of my soul, it's tearing at the fundamental fabric that's me." So he and I exchange ski day candidates, then we both go off and negotiate. But negotiation doesn't mean giving in.
Being stereotypical for a minute, women are much more verbal, men are more do-ers. Go ahead, whack me, but I see it again and again. At some point, the debate must stop because it just becomes a circular debate which women will not relent at. A good negotiator stops dangling meat out there to chew on. Draw a line in the sand. If it's important to you, do it. Hey, there are 8-9 other months in the year. I have things I don't like that she does - like lying on the beach all day. Make it clear there are things that you don't care for to. I don't think any of this is a marriage deal-breaker, but you do have to stand up for the essence of yourself and not be bullied into being something that you are not. Enough said, you didn't even ask for it. Now let's go look at that snow...

 

[JerseyJoey]

yeah i'm sure.

i'm an inch away from filing for divorce. I cant keep this up anymore.

spring summer fall winter. every activity is met with hostile resistance.

i quit golf, i barely play softball i ski almost never and still. nothing but arguments. people werent meant to live like this.

I don't agree with what OJ did.........but I understand.

BTW, my 5 year old son learned a very valuable ski lesson this morning on the Snowdon Quad. Don't kiss a frozen safety bar. Our ski day ended at noon today because of that. Some blood and some crying but not too bad overall. $20 says he won't do that again. Poor kid.

Puking hard for the last hour at 2200 feet. Gonna get nailed here folks.

 

[highpeaksdrifter]

I can't solve your problems, but I can tell you how I handled it. First, I was already skiing before I got married, so it's part of the package. Second, I hate to say this, (Dr. Phil would castrate me) but sometimes you need to make it non-debatable. Look, I'm going, period. Details omitted, but that's the essence of it. One of my ski buds and I talked at length about it. It happens to a lot of guys, especially after kids are born and the whole bunch is no longer interested. My bud said it best, "it's part of my soul, it's tearing at the fundamental fabric that's me." So he and I exchange ski day candidates, then we both go off and negotiate. But negotiation doesn't mean giving in.
Being stereotypical for a minute, women are much more verbal, men are more do-ers. Go ahead, whack me, but I see it again and again. At some point, the debate must stop because it just becomes a circular debate which women will not relent at. A good negotiator stops dangling meat out there to chew on. Draw a line in the sand. If it's important to you, do it. Hey, there are 8-9 other months in the year. I have things I don't like that she does - like lying on the beach all day. Make it clear there are things that you don't care for to. I don't think any of this is a marriage deal-breaker, but you do have to stand up for the essence of yourself and not be bullied into being something that you are not. Enough said, you didn't even ask for it. Now let's go look at that snow...

Post of the day in my book. I'm with you BIll.

 

[Beetlenut]

yeah i'm sure.

i'm an inch away from filing for divorce. I cant keep this up anymore.

spring summer fall winter. every activity is met with hostile resistance.

i quit golf, i barely play softball i ski almost never and still. nothing but arguments. people werent meant to live like this.

you would think right?

i dont know, i'm just burned out on the home front. the same thing over and over.

lol, i was just getting it out of my system.

some people argue about money or housework or even sex.

we argue about my skiing. it just gets to be too much sometimes.

Clark Kent may be coming back for the season.

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Wow, I didn't even notice you in the boat!! I guess I must have been too busy paddling up-stream! I go through the same effin BS everytime I want to go too. Sometimes, by the time I finally do get out, I'm so burnt out from the combat of extracting myself from my domestic situation, that I ask myself if it's even worth it? I just keep hoping that each year the kids get a little older, and hopefully financially we do a little better, that it will become a little easier. I know I'm in denial! Nice, in some twisted sort of way, to hear that I'm not the only one with that situation.

 

[SIKSKIER]

From one Bill to another Billski....You nailed it guy.As with him,when I got married it was part of the package.After 5 years she figured she better take up skiing if she wanted to be with me on the weekend.She did and fell in love with it.Then she fell out of love with me after 20 years.Actually we both did.We divorced and she moves into ski country full time!Now I have to see her every winter weekend.It's all good now though.Put your foot down or put one foot in front of the other and move on.It will only get worse.That's no way to life a very short time in this world.