iwon't formerly known as OldsnowboarderME

[GrilledSteezeSandwich]

And if GSS was truly just making an attempt at humor, why did he not defend himself when others suggested his comments were out of line?
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I wanted to but I got two warnings from you in my PM box and didn't want to push it anymore...nice moderating job DHS..:roll::???:

 

[Greg]

I'm quite aware of their relationship and I took GSS's comments as mocking Jerry for going to therapy and instituting change in his life. Others saw it the same way. Perhaps it was not offensive to Jerry. If I, JimG, Paul (one of the most dark humored members here) and others who 'know' the two members viewed it as such; what about how might a new forum member who doesn't know them view it?

And if GSS was truly just making an attempt at humor, why did he not defend himself when others suggested his comments were out of line? A simple, "oh I'm sorry, I didn't mean to come across as an asshole that was not my intent." would go a long way. Perception vs Intent

I think every member should feel safe in opening up about personal subjects without fear of being mocked or made fun of. Because I feel that way, it's my opinion that members should err on the side of restraint during such discussions. Right or wrong, that's my view.

You outlined the situation perfectly. Let's not forget the OSME persona was dropped shortly after the GSS-OSME fued which I took as a lot more than light-hearted ribbing between friends.

I applaud Jerry for identifying a disconnect between who he is in real life and his former online persona. I wish more people had them in sync.

nice moderating job DHS.

Agreed.

 

[Riverskier]

I wanted to but I got two warnings from you in my PM box and didn't want to push it anymore...nice moderating job DHS..:roll::???:

Seriously? That is nuts. I still think your post was fine, and actually contained a nice message. If people choose to perceive it as negative, that is their problem and not yours. Keep it real GSS!

That said, good luck with everything Jerry. I know what it is like to lose a pet, and for me it was like losing a family member.

 

[Greg]

GSS apologized once before for something he posted.

And he didn't mean a word of it.

 

[wa-loaf]

I applaud Jerry for identifying a disconnect between who he is in real life and his former online persona. I wish more people had them in sync.

It's funny, it never occurred to me to take on some other personality when I got online. I usually assume real world personalities match the online ones. Always figured Jerry was a cranky old man, but a nice fun cranky old man kind of way. I would have had a beer with OSME and I still would like to have one with iwon't sometime.

Although I understand iwon't is a new beginning and an attempt to be a better person. I bet the real Jerry falls in between the two. And that's not bad.

 

[GrilledSteezeSandwich]

GSS apologized once before for something he posted.

And he didn't mean a word of it.

and???

 

[Vortex]

I am glad to see you are back Jerry. I have met and made turns with Jerry. I expect his off line persona will match the new posts. I hope you and GSS have a good fresh start as well. Its all about making turns anyway.

 

[Grassi21]

jerry was looking for a fresh start and to move on. why don't we do that and let this nitpicking of GSSs response die out?

 

[OldsnowboarderME]

The OSME persona had degenerated, in my opinion, beyond rehabilitation. Greg was right, there was a major disconnect. The GSS-OSME started out light heart but turned to a dark negative side that was spiring down over time. I want to be a friend to everyone that is willing to be mine. If you don't want to be I am not going to be your enemy either because of it.
DHS gave me some timely advice which I acted upon. Greg modified one of his forum rules for me which I truly appreciate.
GSS (Doug) has toned it down lately IMO and his thinking that he is walking on egg shells might not be a bad thing for a while. There is probably a little behind the scenes moderation going on.
Remember everyone, this was a two way street. I gave as much as I got. I went back and read some of my old post and I didn't like what I was reading.
Doug, I would be more than happy to be your friend. I sense common ground between us. Like I said before in another thread, if you come up to Gunstock, the lift ticket is on me. You know what I will extend the offer to any of the places I have a pass that you might be interested in skiing, Pats Peak, Ragged Mountain or Gunstock.

 

[OldsnowboarderME]

It's funny, it never occurred to me to take on some other personality when I got online. I usually assume real world personalities match the online ones. Always figured Jerry was a cranky old man, but a nice fun cranky old man kind of way. I would have had a beer with OSME and I still would like to have one with iwon't sometime.

Although I understand iwon't is a new beginning and an attempt to be a better person. I bet the real Jerry falls in between the two. And that's not bad.

You probably would be correct .. I would be more than happy to have a beverage with you.

 

[gorgonzola]

wow this internet shit gets weirder every day....but its all good i guess. sorry to hear about your dog and godspeed moving forward...fwiw i thought gss's apology was legit considering the source

 

[tcharron]

wow this internet shit gets weirder every day....but its all good i guess. sorry to hear about your dog and godspeed moving forward...fwiw i thought gss's apology was legit considering the source

+1

*shrug*

But then again, I find GSS amusing, so anything that could be percieved as insulting may be masked by my wiseass filter. :-D

 

[Beetlenut]

Good luck Jerry! Sorry to hear about your four-legged family member passing on. I always knew who the real Jerry is/was. And GSS is just GSS!

 

[SKidds]

Quote:
Originally Posted by gorgonzola
wow this internet shit gets weirder every day....but its all good i guess. sorry to hear about your dog and godspeed moving forward...fwiw i thought gss's apology was legit considering the source

+1

*shrug*

Hmmm......it only took 7+ pages, but I'm glad I wasn't the only one thinking this.

I am glad for a few things. Glad iwon't took a bit of a break, because when internet discussion board issues get this heavy it's most definitely time for a break. Glad you are back with a fresh outlook, new name or not. I never perceived you as all that negative and it's good to have you sticking around. Glad there are therapists who can help people who develop anger issues related to online forums.

Anywho, I know what it's like to not get along well with someone on a discussion board, and best of luck with the fresh start. And I'm sorry to hear about the dog. Hang tough, because with a 19 year old cat (he did say 19, right......wow that's old) you are in for more emotional turmoil in the not too distant future. Always say, the worst part about having a pet is losing them. But we know it's gonna happen some day, and we wouldn't trade all the good days and fond memories just to avoid the brief pain of loss.

 

[billski]

Welcome back Jerry!8)

What's going on around here? I go away for a week and it's like everyone went to a revival tent meeting or something! ;-)
Maybe it's because the rain stopped for a few minutes????

 

[OldsnowboarderME]

Welcome back Jerry!8)

What's going on around here? I go away for a week and it's like everyone went to a revival tent meeting or something! ;-)
Maybe it's because the rain stopped for a few minutes????

Summertime is revival time brother. Come into the tent and pray. :lol:

 

[severine]

There's been so much drama on here lately (which, say what you will about women, I have not seen this much drama on the women's forums I visit) that I can hardly blame anyone for taking some time, re-evaluating the situation, and attempting a fresh start. Heck, I put myself in time-out for 2 weeks because it was getting to me and I wasn't even directly involved.

Regardless of intent of ones words, when one enters a thread that clearly is a serious one and deserving of support, one should choose his words wisely. There's a time for humor and perhaps even douchebaggery--and there's a time to consider mom's wisdom of "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all." Filters, people. Use your internal filters.

Root actually asked me right before I took my break why I was getting touchy and my response was that AZ is like my home. I don't take kindly to people barging in and insulting my guests. I realize that discord is to be expected from time to time, and not everyone can get along. But decency would be nice. I thought we were adults here?

Best wishes, Jerry. Truly. :beer:

 

[GrilledSteezeSandwich]

Welcome back Jerry!8)

What's going on around here? I go away for a week and it's like everyone went to a revival tent meeting or something! ;-)
Maybe it's because the rain stopped for a few minutes????

Welcome back billski!!!!

 

[GrilledSteezeSandwich]

Iwon't you know you are averaging over 10 post per day..that is insane......when can we get tegether for a beer??

 

[wa-loaf]

You probably would be correct .. I would be more than happy to have a beverage with you.

I'm going to try and grab a Ragged powder day or two this winter so maybe we can do it.