billski
Active member
I hear ya. Just be glad you weren't raising those kids in todays enviroment. At times it seems like every aspect of today's reality is in opposition to what we as parents are trying to instill in our children. Like getting through wasn't hard enough already!
So I do have three teens I'm trying to raise in today's environment. The reality is that the thought processes are not fully developed in adolescents, and it causes them to engage in risky behavior regardless.
You can't write off the parents until you hear both sides. It's a catch-22 for parents. The kids want to breakaway from the apron strings and the parents want to give them some liberties to do so. But teens make mistakes. Some kids make huge mistakes, but often they can be brought back onto the straight.
The problem with giving them independence, ask any parent, is that we fret about what they are doing, who they are with, etc. etc. since we can no longer monitor them minute by minute.
I will be you that if word could get back to the kids parents about what had happened, 98% of the parents would really put the punishment hammer down. The kids are still learning, they are still pushing the envelope, it's the parent's job to push it back. In the gondola case, they have no clue. So the right thing to do is seek out the parents and the punishment should be something that really hurts them. It can't be dismissed.
What makes it worse is that peer pressure is huge with teens and causes them to do things they never would otherwise. How many other confrontations go unreported? Kids are influenced by so many other channels today than when I was a kid. It's damn hard being a parent today, but you can't write off either side until you hear both sides.
Having said all that, there are a very very few kids 1% who are just plain evil and have to be dealt with more severely.