My ski career MAY be over 😢

[Cornhead]

My Mom had her's done 3 yrs ago, no fall, arthritic joint. She was 82 at the time, mixed results, much better than before, but has had some problems not related to the joint itself. She has two knees that probably should be replaced too, bone on bone. Good luck to your Mom SIKSKIER.

 

[JimG.]

Hey Warp, don't ignore the possibility of adaptive skiing. I know several chair skiers at Hunter and they rip. Can ski anything.

 

[Warp Daddy]

Cornhead and SIK sorry to hear about your dad and mom ,

life is sometimes a serious hurdle and it is good that you both are there for them

 

[Cornhead]

Cornhead and SIK sorry to hear about your dad and mom ,

life is sometimes a serious hurdle and it is good that you both are there for them

Thanks Warp, after I posted I thought "Shit, I hope I didn't scare Warp." You'll be fine, being an active person will help greatly with your recovery I am sure, good luck. You'll get back on the slopes, the guy I skied with at K had both hips done and he had to wait for me. That probably speaks more to my lack of skiing ability, but I was impressed.

 

[Warp Daddy]

Hey no problem CH , just sorry to learn of your dads situation. I am fairly motivated to beat this setback and be back in 2017

 

[Smellytele]

Cornhead and SIK sorry to hear about your dad and mom ,

life is sometimes a serious hurdle and it is good that you both are there for them

SIK the knees are much harder to come back from than the hip from what I have seen.
CH i hope he recovers and has a few more years in him.
Remember to tell them you love them they won't be around for ever and you don't want to wish you had when it is too late.

Thanks again

 

[snoseek]

Just try, even if it doesn't work out you can at least say you tried. Try hard because as you know skiing is fun, its worth the effort.

 

[Cornhead]

Thanks Smellytele

My Dad is an introvert, add to that his unwillingness to wear a hearing aid, and we never had too many long conversations. My Mom and I alternated staying overnight with my Dad in the hospital. Mom is a trooper, 85 yrs old, and sleeping on a recliner three out of six nights to be there for Dad. I was also glad I could let Mom get a good night's sleep every other night knowing Dad wasn't alone.

We were constantly closing the door to Dad's room so we could yell at him without disturbing other patients on the ward. I wondered if there were any hearing aid apps for my phone. I found several, they did work, but there's a 0.5 second delay between what the mic picks up, and what is heard in the earbuds. Must be like watching a dubbed 60's Kung Fu movie. This was confusing as Dad has become accustomed to reading lips to augment what little his ears pick up. Not only doesn't that work, but the person using the app hears their own voice twice. My Sister tried an Apple app on her phone, I've got an android, that seemed to have less delay, but a delay still. My Brother ordered an audio amplifier with an omnidirectional mic, works like a charm. My Dad can now even partake in speaker phone conversations, something unimaginable before.

So there is a silver lining, I was able to hold my Dad's hand and comfort him in his darkest times. It meant the World to us both. We connected with each other like never before. He should be open to wearing actual hearing aid now. In the time he has left he'll be able to talk to his Wife. Still not sure if that's a good thing, or a bad thing. I told Mom she will no longer have the luxury of talking behind Dad's back in front of him.

When he does pass, I will have the peace of mind knowing I did all could to be there for him when he needed me. It is my pleasure. My whole family came together for him. Without everyone's support, I'm sure he would've just given up, I would. I hope his struggles will be rewarded by being able to return home. You don't appreciate what you've got till it's taken from you. I hope he is able to die at home when he does. Dorothy had it right, there's no place like home.

 

[Warp Daddy]

Cornhead , what you have described is an illustration of a GOOD son !! Your dad intuitively knew you were that all along , being a dad yourself you KNOW that . AS parents we love ,sometimes tough love , sometimes silently , sometimes demonstratively , but the focus is to be there WHEN things go awry .

Your story is both poignant and beautiful . Your dad's journey will forever be apart of who you are as both a son and a dad as you will assume that role of being a or perhaps THE senior male in your own family . these transitions CHANGE. Us , believe me i know , we morph to undertake thsi newer yet appropriate role in our respective families .

What you are doing is not only thereupeutic for your dad but also for you .

thoughts , prayers and vibes are heading your way big guy

WARP

 

[Dickc]

Warp, My late dad had both hips done, about ten years apart. He had them done in the spring so he could ski by winter. First hip was done in 1984, the other 1993 or 4. Dad skied until 2005 when his back trouble stopped him. He also taught many people to ski during that time as he was a PSIA certified ski instructor all that time too. You WILL be able to ski after a hip replacement, just follow all the rehab rules, and keep up exercising!

 

[mister moose]

Cornhead ... AS parents we love ,sometimes tough love , sometimes silently , sometimes demonstratively...

Love demonstrated, given freely, always is louder than love spoken.

 

[Not Sure]

Thanks Smellytele

My Dad is an introvert, add to that his unwillingness to wear a hearing aid, and we never had too many long conversations. My Mom and I alternated staying overnight with my Dad in the hospital. Mom is a trooper, 85 yrs old, and sleeping on a recliner three out of six nights to be there for Dad. I was also glad I could let Mom get a good night's sleep every other night knowing Dad wasn't alone.

We were constantly closing the door to Dad's room so we could yell at him without disturbing other patients on the ward. I wondered if there were any hearing aid apps for my phone. I found several, they did work, but there's a 0.5 second delay between what the mic picks up, and what is heard in the earbuds. Must be like watching a dubbed 60's Kung Fu movie. This was confusing as Dad has become accustomed to reading lips to augment what little his ears pick up. Not only doesn't that work, but the person using the app hears their own voice twice. My Sister tried an Apple app on her phone, I've got an android, that seemed to have less delay, but a delay still. My Brother ordered an audio amplifier with an omnidirectional mic, works like a charm. My Dad can now even partake in speaker phone conversations, something unimaginable before.

So there is a silver lining, I was able to hold my Dad's hand and comfort him in his darkest times. It meant the World to us both. We connected with each other like never before. He should be open to wearing actual hearing aid now. In the time he has left he'll be able to talk to his Wife. Still not sure if that's a good thing, or a bad thing. I told Mom she will no longer have the luxury of talking behind Dad's back in front of him.

When he does pass, I will have the peace of mind knowing I did all could to be there for him when he needed me. It is my pleasure. My whole family came together for him. Without everyone's support, I'm sure he would've just given up, I would. I hope his struggles will be rewarded by being able to return home. You don't appreciate what you've got till it's taken from you. I hope he is able to die at home when he does. Dorothy had it right, there's no place like home.

My 85 yr old father inlaw was told he has a mass in his lung "years" ago .His doctors informed him he had to have a biopsy and was told there was a 99% chance it was cancer. After hearing that he decided he would not like to deal with the surgery and pretty much prepared for the end ...Haha . That was 3yrs ago ! Not saying that the doctors aren't correct but wait a bit for there may be some hope yet.
He broke his hip 10yrs ago on of all places a handicap ramp. He parked his car and jogged over to the store that had a regular height curb or he thought , didn't see the macadam ramp and fell .
last summer I followed him on a 6 mile bike ride up to Jim Thorpe.
Haven't done it yet this year yet but he's still active and bought another bike .

 

[Cornhead]

My 85 yr old father inlaw was told he has a mass in his lung "years" ago .His doctors informed him he had to have a biopsy and was told there was a 99% chance it was cancer. After hearing that he decided he would not like to deal with the surgery and pretty much prepared for the end ...Haha . That was 3yrs ago ! Not saying that the doctors aren't correct but wait a bit for there may be some hope yet.
He broke his hip 10yrs ago on of all places a handicap ramp. He parked his car and jogged over to the store that had a regular height curb or he thought , didn't see the macadam ramp and fell .
last summer I followed him on a 6 mile bike ride up to Jim Thorpe.
Haven't done it yet this year yet but he's still active and bought another bike .

I think that might be the best approach for my Dad. If the Cancer is treated successfully, how much time would that buy a 92 yr old? My Mom has a friend who "cured" herself of lung Cancer using holistic treatments. I'm skeptical, but she is Cancer free. My hope is for him to return home and have a greater appreciation of what time he has left.

 

[Not Sure]

I think that might be the best approach for my Dad. If the Cancer is treated successfully, how much time would that buy a 92 yr old? My Mom has a friend who "cured" herself of lung Cancer using holistic treatments. I'm skeptical, but she is Cancer free. My hope is for him to return home and have a greater appreciation of what time he has left.

I'm a huge believer in Vitamin C , My mother inlaw was given 6mo. to live 25yrs ago, bladder cancer. She did high doses orraly 10K a day .

For me I went to a place in NY and had IV vitamin therapy , it's more accepted now than 17yrs ago there are a number of doctors using the therapy locally ,did'nt cure it but kept me in remission for 5yrs .In that time a new Monoclonal anitbody treatment came out , lucky for me after it transformed to a more agressive cancer. I ended up waiting 8yrs from my diagnosis to my actual tratment time.

 

[dlague]

This thread has really gotten deep! Sorry for everyone's losses and I hope everyone recovers ok! Sincerely!

 

[Smellytele]

Laid my father to rest today. He served in WWII in the Navy, They had the honor guard there which included 3 Sailors. 2 at the grave to handle the flag and stand at attention and 1 to play Taps. It was amazing. Goodbye Dad!

 

[marcski]

Laid my father to rest today. He served in WWII in the Navy, They had the honor guard there which included 3 Sailors. 2 at the grave to handle the flag and stand at attention and 1 to play Taps. It was amazing. Goodbye Dad!

I'm sorry for your loss. It sounds like he lived a good, long life.

 

[chuckstah]

Condolences Smellytele. My father is a WWII vet as well. Served in the army in Japan and is almost 90. There's not too many Veterans left from that era.

 

[Warp Daddy]

ST his legacy lives on in you now .All his goodness will shine through your actions and all that he stood for will forever be honored by his family .

We too recently buried our 95 yr old uncle a decorated vet of the Pacific campaign . The military funeral ceremony is poignant and reverent as is fitting for these men who so selflessly gave that we all may enjoy a better life .

 

[Not Sure]

ST his legacy lives on in you now .All his goodness will shine through your actions and all that he stood for will forever be honored by his family .

We too recently buried our 95 yr old uncle a decorated vet of the Pacific campaign . The military funeral ceremony is poignant and reverent as is fitting for these men who so selflessly gave that we all may enjoy a better life .

Amen! I try to educate my kids about the sacrifices the greatest generation has made.
Make a point to take them to local Memorial Day services .
They wine about it until they get there and hear the stories the vets tell.