Overprotective or Overreacting?

[highpeaksdrifter]

The best way to stay out of trouble is not to get into it in the first place.

That in a nutshell is all I was trying to get at. People can agree with it or not, but that is all I meant.

 

[RISkier]

I'm a late responder and wasn't going to take the time to read all the other responses. My take is you generally have to let people be themselves. You're just going to grow to resent a partner who doesn't let you participate in activities that you love. It's not like skiing is self destructive, it's just something you love doing more than your partner. My wife and I are skiing buddies but our work schedules don't always coincide. She sometimes has time off when I just can't get away from work. She's taken a couple of ski trips with friends when I've not been able to get away. I'm enveous but don't see any reason why she should stay at home and twiddle her thumbs just because I can't get away from work. Now I don't think she'd want to go on overnight trips all alone but I can imagine her doing a day trip to Wachusett to make some turns. Now that said, I do think you need to be reasonable and ask yourself if skiing is getting in the way of your relationship? Remember, the resentment can work both ways, so don't neglect your relationship. FWIW, there are a few folks who participate mostly on Epicski who try to meet for ski days. We mostly meet at Wachusett on weekend mornings. We're mostly 40+ and sometimes folks bring children. It's very informal but if you'd be interested in joining us sometime send me a PM.

 

[Brettski]

So.......................

When's your first time out gonna be?

 

[highpeaksdrifter]

Fixed.

Changing horse to cow, funny, I don’t know how you come up with them.

Fixed.

In any case, I do believe you requested the ripping. I'm happy to oblige.

Your ripping seemed more like an angry rant; I just don’t know where the anger is coming from. If what I wrote brought up an unpleasant time in your past, and that’s what’s making you mad, then I am sorry for that.

 

[Brettski]

I just don’t know where the anger is coming from.

His age

 

[ctenidae]

I'd be offended more if it wasn't true. She can run really fast too. The only reason we're still together is I can ride my bike faster than she can run.

Can she run faster than you can ride a goat?
Probably, I guess, since no matter how hard you push, sometimes the goat just won't go through the fence.

 

[Marc]

Changing horse to cow, funny, I don’t know how you come up with them.

I actually have an instruction manual titled "Jokes in bad taste for rednecks, hicks, farmers and helpers. And engineers."

Your ripping seemed more like an angry rant; I just don’t know where the anger is coming from. If what I wrote brought up an unpleasant time in your past, and that’s what’s making you mad, then I am sorry for that.

I wasn't angry when I wrote any of it, nor am I now. I'll admit the first post of my response to you was laden with sarcasm and hyperbole, but not anger. I was merely disagreeing with what you wrote and attempting to resolve/expose ambiguity or inaccuracy in our communication. I actually am not sure I can remember the last time I was angry. I'm just not an angry person. I also don't know where the "high horse" thing came from so I made light of it. You've never met me and therefore are at a disadvantage in making judgments about my character, as I am about yours. Which is why I refrained from doing so.

And no need to be sorry, my past was rarely unpleasant and didn't include any emotional trauma due to the infidelity of others. My upbringing was idyllic.

 

[Marc]

Can she run faster than you can ride a goat?

No matter how I answer that question, I'm kinda screwed.

Ah.. nevermind. Disregard that.

 

[dmc]

Just don't let someone take away what makes you - you...

If skiing is a big part of what you are then you gotta live it...
Cause you only get one chance - better to be what you are then what somebody else wants you to be...

 

[MRGisevil]

One day my X comes home from work and asks me if women and men can be "just friends" that do things together .. from that moment on I knew I was pretty much screwed. * months later I had the answer. Well for my situation anyways.

That really sucks man, but I don't think it's the same for every situation. I grew up with a handful of big brothers, in highschool all of my friends were guys and personally tend to get along much better with men than I do women. Fortunately, Tim knew that coming in and doesn't freak out if I say I'm going skiing with Jim or watching the game with Ted or yadda yadda yadda.

 

[2knees]

yadda yadda yadda.

lol, great seinfeld episode.


sounds like your boyfriend is pretty grounded. Whatever his motivations may be, if you are passionate about skiing he'll probably see that and understand it requires some compromise on his part.

 

[Greg]

...you gotta live it...
Cause you only get one chance

Word.

 

[drjeff]

And it gets easier....make sure when they get older to take responsibility for their own stuuf...carry their own skis, et them boot bags each, help them boot up, but it'll get to a point where they can do it on their own...kids are now 14/11/10

Took A LOT of energy to keep moving forward...but I'll be damned if I give up skiing....

Amen, the 4 year old has her own little transpack to carry her stuff(I lug the skis), and for the 2 year old, the greatest thing for daycare drop off is the giant size zip-lock cargo/storage bags - makes it reall easy to do a quick visual check to see if everything is in there without having to empty out the entire bag to check. Plus, in another week or so, the GREAT staff at the daycare center at Mount Snow and in their Snow Camp program will see me coming solo on this weekends and take pity on me and help out

 

[gorgonzola]

My wife hadn't skii'd since high school when we got married and had no desire to do so until i started taking the kids. for the first 8 or so years of marriage i only got out 15 or so days a year with at least one weekend trip a season with the guys - compromised as i couldn't justify any more money or time for non-family sh!t...then i convinced her to come out with the kids (3) and she turned into ...well MrsSnowBunski! Now she does women's workshop, race clinic etc. and ends up with more days than me. The problem now is she gets pissed if I wanna go and she can't...

 

[prisnah]

Is she still your girlfriend????

Not a chance.

Now I just get all the benefits without the hassle. :wink:

 

[Marc]

Not a chance.

Now I just get all the benefits without the hassle. :wink:

That's better than winning the lottery.

 

[freeheel_skier]

He is being Paranoid, overprotective & overreacting! Yeh there has to be some give and take. But giving you a difficult time when you want to do something you like is crazy. Why should someone make you feel guilty when you are doing something you enjoy.

Now if dating other guys is something you enjoy then I would say he does have a legit gripe!

 

[highpeaksdrifter]

I actually am not sure I can remember the last time I was angry. I'm just not an angry person.

Nope….I had time to go back and reread your posts in this thread and you where angry all right. However, maybe it was the first time in your life you where ever angry and you didn’t know what it felt like so you couldn’t identify it. So in a way I helped you uncover an emotion you didn’t know you even had. That isn’t something that happens to a person everyday. No need to thank me I’m just glad I could help.

I’m still not sure what you where all worked up about though.:-?

You've never met me and therefore are at a disadvantage in making judgments about my character, as I am about yours. Which is why I refrained from doing so.

You mean you had to hold yourself back from insulting my character because you disagree with what I wrote in this thread? You’re going to do just fine with this anger thing.

 

[Paul]

Okay you two....

 

[2knees]

Great topic - 100 replys plus for sure.

and just like that you had the 100th post!